From the author: About what men expect from women today and how to keep the fire in the family hearth alive in modern conditions. The article was published on 02/03/2011 Thoughts about the essence of the female role in the family began during the Paleozoic period era. In a primitive society, the tribe was everything: even children were its property. The evolution of marriage and family from promiscuity to individual marriage includes orgiastic holidays, all kinds of sexual taboos, collective marriages, men's houses, women's unions, sexual attacks on women and other delights of primitive life. In essence, sexual desire and maternal love create a family that solves the problems of joint housekeeping and raising offspring, the woman for the first time acts as the keeper of the hearth, and the man as the hunter and breadwinner. After 300 thousand years, the family, in most cases, remained at the same level of evolution , however, has undergone significant changes. Maybe the woman got tired of keeping the fire going, or the man began to bring less prey, but today the wind of change has brought the trends of emancipation to the most backward layers of the population. Speaking about the hearth, it should be noted that it has changed quite a lot since then. Now maintaining a fire includes: physiological, psychological and social components. How nice it is to come to a cozy home, where a hospitable, hospitable housewife is busy, and carefree children are frolicking around her... Of course it’s nice to come, but 70% of men are attracted to completely different women. These are bright, active, sociable and enterprising women and girls whose interests go far beyond home economics. Paradox? In no case - this is precisely the social component. Statistics show that among single women who have “never been married”, the majority are modest, intelligent and economical. Gone are the days when the way to a man’s heart passed through his stomach: thanks to progress. Now emotional intimacy comes to the fore. In the age of information and the frantic pace of life, emotional overload leads to “burnout”: chronic fatigue syndrome has become common, which entails represents the development of neuroses and psychosomatic diseases. A person simply needs to “refuel” with positive emotions. It’s good when spouses are ready to support each other and give each other warmth; It’s good when it’s common for a family to talk about feelings. However, this is possible if a person knows what it is, if he was TAUGHT about it. Very often one has to face the fact that a woman is simply not able to “keep the fire going” in the family hearth, because she does not know how to do it. Note that the term “emotional callousness” appeared in the 20th century. The famous phrase of Savva Ignatievich: “You need to live not for pleasure, but for conscience” has become a motto for many. You can change the course of events right now - give love and warmth to your loved ones, teach them to accept this gift, and see how the world is transformed. CHECK YOURSELF: - Do you know with what feeling your spouse returns home? - How do you feel when you come (he comes)? - Why do you experience these particular feelings? - How often do you ask yourself this question?