– I want to meet someone already!!!– Well, try, for example, dating sites.– What, what if one of my friends sees me there, what will they think of me That I’m not capable of getting to know each other in a normal way? It seems to me that people who are already completely desperate meet people on such sites. – Aren’t you desperate?.. – I want to earn more money, but I can’t do it!!! improve your skills, you really need them in sales. – What do you mean, I already know everything inside and out, going to such training means admitting that I’m not a pro, but after all, I’ve been in sales for so many years! – But , you’re really not a pro, since you still don’t earn the money you need... – I want to go to the pool, I like swimming so much!!! – Great, go! - But I swim very poorly, only along the side where children swim. What will I look like - an adult woman swimming along the side?! This is terrible. - Well, then, in your case, there is only one thing left - to swim in your own bathtub... The path to meeting a man is blocked by the fear of admitting to myself and others that I can’t get acquainted in the usual way, by the reluctance to compare myself with those who have already despaired of meeting each other in “traditional” ways. The path to further professional growth is blocked by my unwillingness to accept that, despite years of work, my professional level is far from what I want. The path to your favorite sport - swimming - is closed by the refusal to show others your low level of preparation. But whether we like it or not, the path to strength begins with weakness. Weakness can be a support from which to push off. But if weakness is not recognized, then there is no support. And it seems like you want to get to a lot of places, but you’re still hanging around in some kind of limbo. Because the feet need to rest on something - for steps you need the ground - reality, but if it is denied, then a virtual - apparent reality is created, and you can’t push off from it, so you can’t walk anywhere. But it happens differently. When the fear of demonstrating one’s real level leads to the desire to “embrace the immensity,” but in the end it still leads to the inability to achieve what one wants. In the second half of the 80s, when various, then called, “training gyms” were opened in droves across the country. My friends and I went to play “sports”. It’s not for nothing that sports is put in quotation marks. For me it was “sport”. Because I was afraid of seeming like a weakling, that I was lifting a barbell weighing less than others, and therefore I ignorantly lifted (there is no other way to say it) weights that were inappropriate for my capabilities. As a result, I developed an intervertebral hernia, which forever blocked my ability to engage in active sports at a serious level. If you take on projects or work beyond your strength, it is equivalent to trying to stuff an entire cake into your mouth (imitating those who succeed) , instead of eating it in manageable pieces for you personally. This can easily cause you to overstrain yourself, and not just temporarily break down, but break down in such a way that you will forever block your path to what you want. By the way, working without proper rest is also an attempt to “shove in what you can’t fit in,” and may well lead to the fact that You will hate your favorite job so much that your professional, career goal will become unattainable. And you can see this in close relationships. When, for example, you tell him that you also love fishing, and then you have to go on this fishing trip, spend the night in leaky tents, without a shower, without a proper toilet. And after a while you explode, and he looks at you in bewilderment, because you said that you like to fish. And for him you turn out to be a completely different person, and this is a reason to think about the prospects of your relationship. And for you, this is lost time, accumulated irritation from fishing, and also questions about relationships. Instead of fishing, it may be, for example, when you say not to him, but to yourself: “I will withstand his attitude towards me,” or: “I will also go to parties” (when you love loneliness and your favorite chair with a cup more?