The birth of a child in itself has a strong impact on the entire family system. Young mothers experience constant stress from drastic changes in life; against this background, not everyone’s health has stabilized or their hormonal levels have normalized. The society around us also puts pressure and imposes many stereotypes on what an ideal mother should be like. But each of us wants to become an ideal parent for our child. Let’s talk today about the moments that make mothers feel guilty and discuss whether everything is really so terrible. So, let’s begin: The ideal mother keeps her emotions under control and never does not scold the child. But you can’t, you break down. Yes, yelling at a child is emotional abuse, but sometimes the feeling of fatigue and irritation accumulates to such an extent that it urgently requires a way out and the next trick of the baby can simply knock you off balance. If you don't yell at your child every day for the slightest reason, then you shouldn't worry about occasional outbursts of screaming. You're just tired...mentally or physically...or both. Just rest. If there is no help nearby, then whenever possible, while the baby is sleeping, you also rest. Don't beat yourself up about it. A calm mother is more important for a child. An ideal mother is always busy with important and necessary things. As soon as you have a free minute, wash, iron, clean, and cook. Have you sat down to watch a series or sit with a book over a mug of tea. And then a terrible feeling of guilt that you did something wrong. Calm down. You all do this, and the appearance of a baby in your life should not mean that now your whole life revolves exclusively around him. An ideal mother’s baby never cries. And you’ve been screaming for half an hour and you have no idea what the problem is. In fact, if the child is small and does not yet know how to speak, and you have tried all the ways to calm him down, then you should not blame yourself for the fact that you cannot understand what your baby needs at the moment. Simply because you don’t know how to read minds. An ideal mother has an adult child who is never capricious. And you’ve been lying on the floor in your children’s room for 20 minutes because he wants to take someone else’s car away from there. At this moment, all eyes are turned to the unfortunate mother with condemnation. But you shouldn't be ashamed. Children are at a transitional age, they assert their self, sometimes going too far. This will pass over time, it has nothing to do with you. The ideal mother breastfeeds her child for at least the first year of life. And you switched to artificial feeding from the second month. Whether or not to breastfeed your child is your personal right. Many women have a lack of milk, and some simply work, while others simply have no desire. And a woman’s choice should not be discussed by society. An ideal mother’s child is always clean and well-groomed. Well, even comments are unnecessary here. These are children, they are not always neat. Don't worry about this. For an ideal mother, a child is always more important than work. Unfortunately, the realities of our lives are such that not everyone can afford maternity leave and devote themselves entirely to their child. There is nothing to be ashamed of or blame yourself for. Enjoy motherhood, throw stereotypes out of your head and remember that the most important thing is to LOVE your child.