In practice, girls come to me who want to build a relationship with a man and this is their request for psychotherapy. We are starting to work. And in the process of therapy, when we are immersed in feelings, FEAR rises. Fear that fetters the body, you want to freeze and not breathe. I want no one to see this or understand this at this moment. At this moment, vulnerability manifests itself - This is how clients describe their feelings. The reasons for fear can be very different, everything depends on the level of traumatization and the wounded decision made. What fears I would like to highlight: Fear of giving orders (beliefs) that you heard from your parents in childhood about family, marriage and relationships in general Fear, along with a feeling of guilt, that the appearance of a relationship may affect the relationship with your parents - mom or dad, it will be bad for this (hello, failed separation) Fear of emotional intimacy with a man, because then he will find out “what you really are” Fear of relationships, because they will necessarily involve criticism, ridicule, humiliation and insult The feeling of fear is not what on the surface and that you can explain to yourself. Counterdependent people explain the lack of relationships in a completely different way. Namely, “I don’t need this”, “It’s all about me, I’m somehow not like that - appearance, character”, “I’m not made for relationships.” Such phrases can talk about psychological defenses with which you can explain and convince yourself. All these points have one thing in common - they are accepted by a small child and, in order to reduce the intensity of fear, change your beliefs, you need to talk to him, within yourself. For most people there is a need for closeness, intimacy with another person, but we immerse ourselves in such a feeling of fear that we convince ourselves that this is not necessary. If there is a psychological trauma that makes itself felt, perhaps this is a reason to seek help from a specialist. This is an opportunity to understand the reasons, understand yourself, live through a traumatic experience, untangle the club of feelings within yourself and go to a meeting of harmonious relationships. Sign up for a consultation using the link ➔ Sign up _________________________________________________________________Your psychologist, Larisa DegtyarPhone - +7(926) 782-13-57My telegram channel https://t.me/degtyar_psy