Life deferred. Sit back. Pour yourself some aromatic tea or coffee. if you like it with a bun, spread out a beautiful napkin or your favorite plate. This moment is now. Our life consists of “nows”. You just think it doesn't matter. This is you and you are living it now. What this moment will be like depends on you. It is more important than your work, you will carry away the taste for the whole day or month. And in one moment your reality will be created. Important matters and elections. They come from this “now”. Procrastination is the result of this moment and this day. The consequence is that I am not important or unimportant, something is more important, not me. When this is a habit or a chain of unconscious choices, the moment of big choice comes. Big choice - 17-23 years old; 35-45 years old.Choice: who you are. Profession, marriage, marriage, career, family. This priority is how I will drink tea every day, with whom, and whether I will have time to drink it. Will I be happy to drink coffee in a cafe, or will I have a snack between tasks? Choosing a partner, a profession - this is a model for about 15-20 years. When it starts to “glitch”, then you either need to continue - give birth to another child and there will be another carte blanche for about 8-9 years. But... a crisis will come. If you made the choice out of happiness, then there will be development in the quality of life. If not, then you will remember: you chose it because it was easier, that’s what your parents advised. Marriage and family structure are not immediately visible, but scenarios often play out like clockwork. Ran away from your parents? Or they didn’t know what exactly they wanted. There is no search for yourself. There is creativity. Procrastination - the fear of error is activated when there is a lot of choice. If I choose myself, what if I don’t do it? What if I'm left alone or alone? What if I can’t beat the competition? Note: the choice is made from programs that have already been beaten and from “I can’t” or “I can’t.” From a weak point, not from a strong one. When a midlife crisis strikes, it is again a choice. Same. Life seems to ask again: look, there is still an opportunity to live your life - do you want it? Do you take it? And then... dammit... How? There is a stereotype. How do I want it? This is where strengths are revealed. There are no guarantees, but... There are none in the previous model either. You can and should look at your model. It already exists and is represented in the world by someone. Variations are your creativity. There’s a catch here: what if it’s not me? Yes and no. You will be in a new quality of yourself and if there was such an environment next to you, you would not think about it, you would calmly be yourself. New thoughts about yourself. But... you had them and happened in such unexpected “nows” as deja vu, like passion, like tears in your eyes from recognizing yourself. You just didn’t dare... If you miss this transition, life will turn according to scenarios. As already happened. Repeating the cycle with a new husband, plus the biological “clock” turns on. They say: survival. There is no taking new. When you decide and take something new, a new countdown begins - your brain understands and sees where you are going, you have many plans. And you need to give the maximum amount of energy, strength, inspiration. So, people who have plans for life have a long and strong life. Life has no “changes”, no “breaks” for lunch or dinner. You cannot step into the same river twice. The breath of life does not stop for a second. It comes through those who say: “OK, I’ll live it.” The fear of mistakes “pursues” and it seems that there is plenty of time. But that's not true. It's just now. If it seems: I’ll redo everything and live,...oops. End. There are no plans and life does not seep into bottlenecks. It comes only to those who do and understand: this is FOREVER. There is always something going on, there will always be tasks. And solving problems is not a problem, but happiness. There is development, growth, luck and strength in this. No stopping needed. We need balance. This is different. How to overcome procrastination? Understand its essence: this is either your life, or what you received as an inheritance. When you realized - don’t put off every “now”. This is usually when the claim is included. To those who are nearby. They don't understand you about this. This is your task. They can't change for you if it's not their plan. And this is an internal change. Husband or mother