From the author: “Be yourself, all other roles are already taken.” © Oscar Wilde. I browse the Internet and see an endless number of articles on the topics: How to choose men/women; Rules for first dates; What you can talk about on dates; Five principles for successful dating of men, women, cows, pigeons; I sit and think, Lord, what crap... .I imagined myself now, free, ready for a new relationship, and I felt uneasy. Before approaching this idea of ​​meeting and dating a man, I need to read and take into account all the principles and rules, norms and pitfalls of relationships that I don’t yet have, with whom I will have is unknown. Well, okay, you can read and take into account some interesting facts about the psychological characteristics of gender, values, and simple rules of communication. Nooo... The Internet is flooded with everything, after which I won’t even go on a date, and I’ll even be scared to meet people. What if I didn’t read it or I read it wrong, I remembered something that’s not important. And??? Confidence is zero, feelings of anxiety and doubt, can I do it??? Or maybe I shouldn’t? And so it’s not bad.....I take a tolmut and begin to summarize all the information, so that God forbid I don’t miss it, otherwise the consequences, as they say, are sad...I’ll meet the wrong person, I’ll come to the wrong person, I’ll start in the wrong way, I’ll continue in the wrong place and goodbye happy life In short, this is something that, on the one hand, provides useful information, but on the other hand, excuse the slang, it just messes with a person’s head. Believe me, no matter how much you study the Internet, prepare and study who and how you should be, you will meet exactly you will start or continue relationships with those with whom you can or end them for the same reasons. Everything is predetermined. Although the question is, everyone who wrote this data has reliable information, personally interviewed 1000 people themselves, learned the knowledge the hard way and translated it into experience??? I don’t think so, moreover, all these tips were born of some kind of person and undoubtedly carry themselves the views, judgments and complexes of those who give advice. Are they really successful in this? Have they really gone through the experience of dating and meeting where they were able to translate their personal knowledge into knowledge that helps everyone as an expert??? Relax and live calmly, float through life enjoying yourself from myself, people, communication. Your people will remain next to you, not yours, they will float by. Even if you are an excellent student, and set a goal to meet and date as smart or experienced people advise, you will still fly into yourself, who you are by nature. What does it mean? fly away, return to yourself, this means that you are a living person, you simply cannot be a robot, an automaton, giving out exactly 200 grams of attention or 100 grams of love and warmth, so as not to overdo it. And you will never be able to plan your day based on 200 servings of any human stuff, without which there is no relationship. The best thing you can do is to be yourself, real and sincere, simple or complex, hot and passionate or cautious, funny or smart, jester or sage, just be yourself. For each of you, there is someone who needs, enjoys, or is important exactly what is in you. The best thing you can do is to spend time not on these writings about who to be, but on searching for your true self. Love yourself, be interested in yourself and people, live and enjoy life, do good and be grateful to everything in your life, it itself will lead you to that and will bring someone who will be exactly yours. Make mistakes, get to know yourself, be passionate about yourself and life, develop, but be yourself!