A young girl came in, let’s call her Lena (name changed, permission to publish received) with a state of dissatisfaction, loneliness, emptiness. Despite her complaints, in her life, in her own words, everything she needs seems to be present. Lena is pretty, energetic, enterprising, unmarried, but has a lot of suitors. For some reason she fails to build a strong relationship. She works and studies. There are friends, but not close friends, but rather “companions”. Lena asked to be diagnosed for feelings of loneliness and inability to build closer, more trusting relationships. I used the “Flower” art therapy technique. Technique "FLOWER": You need to focus on your problem in a calm environment, then close your eyes and imagine a flower. Look carefully at where the flower is located and what surrounds it. Next, draw this on a piece of paper with colored pencils. 10-15 minutes are allotted for drawing. No artistic abilities are required. Initially, the drawing looked like this: Lena said that the flower she drew was a rose. It is beautiful and elegant, a pleasant aroma. We also analyzed the remaining elements of the drawing (I’ll omit the details). When I asked the question: “Do you like everything in the drawing? Do you want to change something? Lena replied that she felt empty and wanted to draw another flower next to her. I asked her to do this. The second drawing looked like this: Dialogue. Me: - What kind of flower did you depict? Lena: - This is Iris Me: - Iris is a masculine flower, who does it represent? Lena: - A close friend Me: - Where are they ( flowers), What kind of fenced spaces are around them? Lena: - These are flower beds. Each flower has its own flower bed. Me: - What does “Everyone have their own flowerbed” mean in real life? Lena: - This allows them to each do their own thing and their own interests. Respect each other's boundaries Me: - Do you think it is possible to build close relationships with such boundaries? What do these boundaries actually separate from? Lena: - From relationships! Here Lena actually had an insight! She perked up and “understood everything!”: she remembered that young people often complained to her that she did not share her plans with them, acted alone, as if the guy did not exist, and was inclined to confront the facts and the actions taken. Because of this, quarrels occurred all the time. Further, with the help of questions about the family, they found out that Lena had an overprotective and overcontrolling mother. And such a parenting style as overcontrol and overprotection often gives a person such behavior as detachment, excessive individualism, and he unconsciously builds too strong and high boundaries from other people. Then the work continued in a different direction.