From the author: Chapter from the book being prepared for publication: “A dysfunctional child and his family. Notes of a child psychologist.” Education is not a simple matter. Especially for those who don’t want to do this at all. But, if you look in more detail, there is nothing difficult in communicating with your child. After all, we do this every day and don’t think about all the complexities of this process. For example, we walk with our feet every day and we don’t have any problems because of it. And if we think about every movement of our muscles, then everything is lost - we will definitely fall and break our nose. It’s the same with education, as long as we don’t think about it, everything goes fine, but as soon as problems, whims, etc. arise, we immediately realize that we don’t understand anything about raising our own children. But problems are a signal that something is wrong, and something needs to be done about it. We can stop with this example. Our parents taught us to walk when we were only one year old. They held our hands, were close to us, laughed, and together rejoiced at small steps as big successes. Were they taught to educate us? Hardly. Therefore, we ourselves are forced to learn how to teach our children and what to teach. It seems that teaching others is very simple. What’s wrong with this: tell yourself, with a smart face, as you should and that’s it. Playing the role of an all-knowing teacher is easy and even enjoyable. But if we set a goal to convey knowledge, then we should think about how the child will perceive this knowledge. Did we enjoy listening to the arrogant, proud Indian teacher? No. It is much more pleasant to listen to a teacher who is passionate about his subject, who has practical experience, and not just theory. How our imagination immediately turns on, at the moment when they give examples related to us, to what is interesting and not indifferent to us. And immediately the problem becomes clear as day, understandable, because it is close. This means that educating means being an example, being an accessible, understandable accomplice in any matter, being present in the child’s life. And if you need to show by example? It is better to do this at a time when you are ready to try, experiment and not be afraid of the most unexpected results. If parents do not want to engage in education, it is possible that they are afraid of becoming losers, afraid of losing the “authoritative” role of a know-it-all teacher in the eyes of their children. And they think, first of all, about themselves and what they will feel, and not about what their son or daughter will feel. This means that the time has come to change the useless “attitudes” to useful, necessary and necessary ones. Give up selfishness and look at the world through the eyes of the one you want to raise. Entering into a new role - a parent, each person experiences in his own way. For some, this is a reason to be proud; for others, this is new responsibilities, vanity, and worries. But for some it’s a joy; in any case, these are new opportunities and no one is indifferent to the new role. Because you cannot be indifferent to the birth of a new life. Let's imagine that your child has to go to first grade. And there are two schools in your area. The first one is beautiful and new, but all the teachers there are relatives and friends of the director, without diplomas or experience working with children. The second school is old, shabby, but its teachers are experienced with academic degrees. Where will you send your child? I think the answer is obvious. Because school is a source of knowledge and it doesn’t matter what building we send our children to, what is important is the knowledge they receive from the teacher. To become a teacher, you need to study for 5 years at an institute, work for about three years in junior positions and all this so that we can trust our children for a couple of hours a day. Eight years of improving your educational level, studying scientific disciplines, and so on. How many years do parents study to become mothers and fathers? The answer is often something vague like “we’ve been learning all our lives.” And if so, it means that in 20-30 years you can already share your mistakes. How do young parents know what to do with their children? When to praise them, when to punish them, when...