Happiness is what is achieved by moving towards a goal, since it underlies human existence. Self-development is the path. Self-development in this context should be viewed as the fact that a person overcomes himself, his habits, the mistakes of his thinking, and acquires the willingness to leave his comfort zone in order to change his life. In order to accept the readiness for self-development, it is necessary first understand that all psychological requests hide this need. 1) How avoidant behavior reveals a request for self-development The need for self-development is not satisfied, since all attempts stop as soon as the fear of not achieving the desired heights arises, and the person goes into avoidance, therefore all the time movement occurs in a circle. It is important to understand the reasons that cause this fear and the obstacles that actually stand in the way of achieving the goal. 2) Every person has a desire to create a new world, as a reflection of the need for security and acceptance of a person as he is, so that there would be no need to adapt and change just to earn someone’s respect. All this is nothing more than the desire to change oneself, to develop to the degree desired in one’s understanding, which opens up a person’s understanding of the new world. 3) The desire to fix everything, to control this is a sign of fear of change, as well as strong attachment - that is, a person considers himself to be extremely developed and is afraid of losing existing skills. It is important to realize that you receive exactly as much information as you need and as much as you can understand it, in order to use it later.4) If a person comes with the desire to maintain a relationship, this means that the relationship with the chosen person is an incentive for self-development for him. It develops when this person is nearby, and when there is a possibility of losing this person, then panic arises that the stimulus is leaving. Developing the ability to find within oneself an incentive for growth and development can help with this request. 5) fear of death - fear that you will not have time to achieve your goal, that you have no strength or confidence. You think about death instead of trying to start thinking differently, living differently, because the subconscious wants to take you back on the path to your goal through the inevitability of death and the impossibility of doing anything when it comes. Awareness of the thoughts that cause fear shows that changes are now possible. 6) the feeling of guilt comes from childhood, when the child is disliked. This dislike will feed into the uncertainty that you will be able to achieve your goal, and as a result of this, you begin to blame yourself for not being able to achieve what you want. Thus, all the external changes or fears desired by a person reflect the desires or fears of internal changes. Self-development through self-realization at individual training “Start your dream business without fears”"