Conflicts are, of course, an integral part of any couple, and this is absolutely normal. In fact, conflict can even be beneficial, as it provides an opportunity to improve relationships, clear up misunderstandings, and take your relationship to the next level. However, it is important to distinguish constructive conflicts from useless quarrels, which are more like prolonged grinding of the same topic without resolution. Accusations, insults, barbs and humiliation are unlikely to contribute to improving relationships; rather, they look like an attempt to drain one’s negativity to make things feel better for a while. How to properly participate in a conflict? Here are some useful tips: • Don't just talk, but also listen to your partner. Be prepared to listen to his point of view, as this is important for each person and will help you better understand his views. Try to take his position for a while. Imagine that you are your partner, how do you feel? what thoughts, feelings? Try to see the situation through his eyes. • Never allow yourself to become abusive or allow your partner to do this to you. If you are being insulted, set clear boundaries and cut off communication. • Ask questions in order to hear and understand your partner, his opinion, point of view, and not to look for vulnerabilities and identify inconsistencies. For example, you can ask questions like: Do I understand correctly that...? So you think that...? How do you see the solution to this problem? How would you like to resolve this situation? • Talk only about the specific situation, not about your partner. For example, you can say, “I feel really bad when you do that,” but you shouldn’t say, “You’re being an idiot.” A husband and wife come to the healer, and both have the same question: - Tell me, how can we understand that our healing process is complete, that I have enough? The healer answers them: Imagine a situation where you wake up in the morning and feel the aroma of coffee from the kitchen. You walk into the kitchen and see that your partner has made you coffee. You take the first sip and say: “This coffee is disgusting.” So, your healing will end when the phrase “What a disgusting coffee” applies only to coffee. • You should not make decisions in a state of anger or irritation. If you are too emotionally involved in a conflict, take a break to calm down and collect your thoughts. Resume the conversation when you are both ready to communicate. • Learn to forgive. Conflicts inevitably arise in relationships, and sometimes it is necessary to forgive each other for things said or done. Practice ways of forgiveness and the ability to meet each other halfway. • Keep in mind the purpose of your communication. Any dialogue and conflict has its purpose, which we sometimes forget in the process of arguing. It is important to remember that you are not on opposite sides, but rather working together to solve a problem. So, conflicts in relationships are normal and can even be beneficial in some cases, but it is important to remember the right ways to resolve them in order to maintain and improve your relationship..