I ruined my relationship with my eldest son. At that time, I myself had to pick myself up piece by piece after leaving my first marriage. And of course, it would be wrong to shoulder all the responsibility for a child’s broken psyche. His father and his mother played a role there. But who, if not me, will take a step towards my son? I was an overbearingly anxious mother: I screamed at my son, wanted to change him, force him to be different. He resisted as best he could. And at some point I realized that I was losing him, it was getting worse. The son became like a hedgehog, he laughed less, did not communicate, and had problems with learning. And then anxiety came over me... total. A signal to me: “I’m going the wrong way, I’m doing the wrong thing..!” And the first step to success was to admit that I’m not a super mom, and then also a mom with problems. And start treating yourself together with your child. And this is courage. After all, many parents bring their children to specialists - “fix it, it’s broken, but with us everything is ok.” This is a fatal misconception. After all, children recover in therapy, but the family system does not. The child gets into the system and... the symptom returns, problem behavior, as a result of relationships in the family. During therapy, my son and I went through a lot of things: theft, a conflict with the mother of a boy whose son hit him in the head with a stone, communication with a local police officer, absenteeism from school , non-certification, second year, gadget addiction. Words cannot express how sick we all were. Panic, a bloody nose from a mother (grandmother), a son moving in with his father, a change of school, tough negotiations with an ex, the return of the prodigal son to pinatas, a transfer to a new school... It’s even scary to remember. But we managed. There were many conflicts, experiments, decisions, rules, strictness in which I grew up as a person, as a mother. Glory to psychotherapy 🙏And probably thank me for my courage, stubbornness and faith that it will work out, for my determination and actions. My son finished school well, chose a vocational school, and got a profession. Then I mastered a couple of professions. Now he works at the enterprise, is independent, financially independent. It even helps me. He can do a lot around the house: clean, fix plumbing, go grocery shopping, cook borscht.❤I believe that every mother can create a better relationship with her children - after all, children, like plasticine, are ready to change in warm hands. It is important to accept responsibility, make a choice, build a strategy, take action. The result will definitely be achieved! This is health and warm relationships. Does it respond? If you are confused and don’t know how to build a relationship with/with children/between children, I invite you to a free consultation, where we will look for the cause of your difficulties and outline a strategy for improving relationships. Put + in the comments. I will contact you.