Of course, people most often come to a psychologist when something difficult happens in life, which needs to be dealt with, examined from a new angle, and in a state of lack of resources, often with a feeling of guilt, with the thought “I’m not like that”, “what am I doing wrong”. Without even suspecting that there may be hidden violence in the relationship. When we start to take a closer look at a situation, especially about a relationship, it happens that there is a 'red flag' that we need to pay attention to. And it’s not at all about the person who came for the consultation. It happens that hidden violence creeps into the relationship, which is difficult to recognize. This is a “red flag”. Most often, hidden violence is used by a partner for the purpose of manipulation, to get one’s way, without directly talking about one’s needs. I’ll tell you what you should pay attention to if you feel “something wrong” in your situation. relationship with a partner. NOT THE NORMAL. IF PARTNER USES: Close gaze without comments. “Guess for yourself what I think of you.” “You look like a fool now.” The person being stared at feels out of place, cannot understand what he said or did wrong. Punishment by silence: “I don’t want to talk to you.” Silence can last for days, weeks. And for some even months. The partner must figure out for himself how he needs to correct the situation. Most often, all actions do not bring results. Ignoring: “I don’t pay attention to you.” "I don't care about you." “You are lower, I am higher.” A person who is ignored wants it to end as soon as possible, because he feels like an empty place, unimportant, unimportant. It's degrading. Filter questions at will. “I answer this question, I’m silent on the other.” - Will you go to the kindergarten tomorrow to pick up your son? - Yes. - What did your colleague who wrote to you late at night want? - Silence. The feeling that the answers to the question you are interested in information has to be earned. + 4 more points, which I will talk about in the next part. Subscribe so as not to miss publications. Have you encountered this? How do you think a person feels in these situations? #Alena_Reznik#psychology_Reznik Sometimes a person feels somehow strange in a relationship. Not safe. As if something suggests hidden violence. how to recognize it?