We do not live in the USSR now. There is no sex in the USSR - we know. Back in the Soviet Union, it was forbidden to kiss, look bright, you were only allowed to look at each other. Now people have become more liberated, but the tightness remains, because... Many people are unable to talk about this without embarrassment or embarrassment. This was a deeply taboo topic. Unfortunately, there is no education about this in our schools. There is a lot of information and the child has to get it on his own. And this is all that parents face when they want to tell their child about sex. If the child comes up on his own, then congratulations, already speak. If the child doesn’t come up and doesn’t ask? Is it necessary to start a conversation at all? 8 - 10 years old is the age when it is worth telling. If you don’t tell him, he will find the information himself. It is optimal for the father to talk about sex with the boy, and the mother to talk to the girl. Of course, if the mother is raising alone, then she does the talking. And it’s important to understand that I want to talk to my child not about sex, but about making him feel safer later. How to start talking? or A child comes up and asks - What is sex? - There is such an aspect of life, let’s talk. (If the child refuses, says no, then it’s better not to touch it, then you can wait a little longer. After half a year, try again. If this happens again , then most likely he does not have a close relationship with his parents and he does not want to discuss this with them.) - There is a man, there is a woman, the main difference in our bodies is this and that, there is a penis, and there is a vagina, etc. - Sex is an action that should bring pleasure, it’s cool if you do it consciously with a person you really like. - Come on, when you fall in love and want to have sex, you come to me and we’ll discuss something else. And then we can discuss it more substantively. It is very important how you tell this to your child; you should not show strong emotions that it is scary or ashamed. With girls, it is also important to talk about menstruation so that she knows so that the child does not get scared. It wouldn't hurt the boy to know about it either. Otherwise, he will grow up to 30 years old and will react to this with surprise. Another related question, Where do children come from? You can start like this... - Mom and dad met and fell in love with each other very much and decided that it was necessary for you to appear. We had love and you appeared in our tummy. We were waiting for you and loved you. And then there was a wonderful birth. You shouldn’t tell your children or scare them that their mother suffered from contractions for 24 hours. Everyone has their own experience. As additional support for parents, to make it easier to withstand this difficult conversation with a child, I would like to draw your attention... That sex is natural, it is inherent in our nature. And it is better if the child learns this from his parents than from other sources. And he will find out in any case, but it is unknown how it will affect him. It may be, and this is not uncommon, that dad or mom may say that I cannot talk about this topic. I understand that this is necessary and important, but I can’t, for the life of me. As an option, there are now books on sale for children and parents, with pictures. I recommend that parents first select and read it, and only then slip it to their child or read it with him or her. The books should contain information about the structure of the body, boys and girls, and what parts of the body are called. It is important to know the names of all my body parts. Your task as a parent is to protect the child, provide information and support. When a parent talks about this with his child, he actually legalizes sex and everything connected with it, and this reduces embarrassment and embarrassment. If this is difficult, then you can contact me and we will sort out your difficulties. Sign up for a consultation, in the profile header.