“I have been dating the man I love for two years. Recently he proposed to me, I accepted. We've been living together for the last three months. This is what started to bother me (I somehow didn’t notice this before): he is too neat, precise, obligatory. Just recently I liked it, but after a quarrel over the mess in the apartment, I really thought about it. It seems to me that this should not be the main thing for us now, but preparation for the wedding... I am also a neat person, but somehow I don’t arrange jars according to height, sort through the laundry on the shelves in the closet every day, sorting it by color, or remake the bed every day ready... And he is also reserved and calculating. It looks like my chosen one is a terrible pedant. Can an ordinary girl live happily with such a man?” - This question was asked by reader Olga (let’s call her that). I don’t think any psychologist will answer it unequivocally. But you can consider all the pros and cons of living together with a pedantic man, and let Olga, like any other girl, decide whether she should connect her life with such a man or not. Let us immediately note that being friends and living together with a pedant is not one thing and also. Already at the very beginning of a relationship, a pedantic man behaves a little differently from others his age. He is not capable of crazy actions, unusual gifts, poems under the moon, confessions on the asphalt lined with flowers... He is used to calculating his every step. He is usually confident, stable, respectful and keeps everything in order. And many girls like it and even admire it. But still, being friends with a pedantic man is one thing, but living with him as a family is somewhat different. I suggest starting with the minuses. According to Dahl’s definition, “a pedant is a strict, precise, picky, self-confident follower of one-sided order” (can you guess who sets up this one-sided order?). 🔥 According to psychologists, one cannot become a pedant, one must be born. And if your husband is a real pedant, then be prepared to live by certain rules that he established in your home. All family members, including unborn children, must live by these rules. Your home should always be in perfect order. Things are ironed and hung or laid out in strict order. If you don’t have time, you will receive a reprimand, and if you object, there will be a scandal. The pedant has his own rules, which cannot be violated by anyone, not even himself. If a girl loves her man and his “peculiarities” do not frighten her, then there is no reason to worry about these “peculiarities.” Moreover, a pedant has excellent advantages.🚀🔥 Such a man is practically incapable of cheating. Taking into account the fact that almost half of marriages break up due to the infidelity of one of the spouses (usually men), the loyalty of a pedantic man is worth appreciating.🚀🔥 Another plus that many women may like is that men... Pedants take on almost all the housework themselves. They are often excellent cooks, they love to cook and do it masterfully and tasty. They carefully clean the apartment and keep the house, garage, and lot in perfect order. A pedantic man will never forget to pay bills, buy what he needs, fill out documents... It will be easy to find any thing in your home, because each has its own place.🚀 🔥 And another huge plus. Pedantry and alcoholism are incompatible things. This means you won’t have to suffer because of your husband’s drinking. Yes, living with such a man is not easy: you must always comply with his rules. But it is possible. Especially if you love him.!!! Just, for the sake of all that is good, don’t even think about re-educating him! This is not just useless, but very harmful for your relationships and peace in the family. So, dear girls, love a pedantic man, so accept him for who he is, with all the pros and cons. Adapt to his “peculiarities” and live enjoying order. And if you want to check the level of pedantry of your beloved man, invite him to take the appropriate test.