Book "The Manipulated Man" by Esther Vilar. In this series of articles I will post my translation of her book. I would not be as categorical as the author of the book, and would not argue that what she writes is exactly what always happens, while I observed some of the processes she describes in my practice. IN ORDER THAT the happiness of an enslaved man be achieved It is with the help of a woman, and not other men, some animal or even one of the above-mentioned social systems, that a series of educational approaches are built into a man's life, the practice of which begins from a very early age. It is very advantageous for a woman to have a boy under her authority, since then he is easiest to train. And as a result of natural selection, it is those women who are best suited to train men who reproduce themselves; the rest are not capable of reproduction. The very fact that a man from an early age is accustomed to the presence of women, to the fact that their presence is “normal” and their absence is “abnormal,” makes him dependent on women in later life. But this dependence will not be serious enough, since life without women in this case will mean nothing more than a change of scenery, just as a man born in the mountains can go to live on the plain: although he may be nostalgic for his native home, he unlikely to return there. Other things are of much greater importance in his life. It would hardly be in the interests of women if they evoked in men only a vague romantic nostalgia that they experience only on Sundays or away from home and which has no direct consequences. She made sure that the man was directly prepared for a specific purpose: he must work and place the fruits of his labor at her disposal. A woman pursues this goal throughout the entire period of raising her child, and she develops in him a number of conditioned reflexes that force him to do everything to satisfy her material needs. She achieves this through the use of manipulation from the first days of his life. Consequently, by the time education is completed, the man will believe that his own value corresponds to the woman's assessment of his usefulness to her. He will only be happy when he earns her praise and produces something valuable to her. You could say that a woman becomes a kind of value scale. At a certain moment, a man can turn to her and determine the usefulness or uselessness of his actions. If he spends some time on something that has no value from her point of view, for example, on football, he should do everything possible to compensate for this disadvantage as quickly as possible by increasing his activity and increasing his usefulness: this explains why women do not mind football or other popular sports too much. One of the most useful factors in raising a man is praise. Its effects are better and much more lasting than, say, sex, since it can be used throughout a man's life. Moreover, if praise is used in the right proportion, a woman will never have to scold. Any man accustomed to a certain level of praise will perceive its absence as disapproval. Training through praise has the following advantages: it makes the recipient of praise dependent (for praise to be worth something, it must come from a higher source, so the one being praised, raises the one who praises to a higher level compared to himself); it creates dependence (without praise, he soon ceases to understand whether he is worth something or not, and forgets about the ability to identify with himself); it increases productivity (praise is most effective not for the same achievements, but each time for increasingly higher ones). Once the boy is rewarded with a warm smile and the usual encouraging, meaningless baby talk from adults forbecause he went to the potty and did not wet the bed, or because he drank the last drop from his bottle, he finds himself in a vicious circle. He will repeat the actions that earned praise and affection, and if at some point the recognition is not received, he will do everything possible to get it back. The happiness he experiences when praise returns has already taken on the proportions of addiction. During the first two years of life, the mother does not distinguish between boys and girls. The girl is subjected to the same manipulations until she learns the principles of hygiene, but from that moment on, the upbringing of boys and girls proceeds completely differently. The older a girl gets, the better she becomes at exploiting others, while a boy becomes more and more manipulated into being exploited. Toys play an important role in this early manipulation. The mother first encourages the child's play and then exploits him. The girl is given dolls with all the necessary paraphernalia: strollers, doll beds, miniature tea sets. A boy will be given everything that a girl will never have: tool sets, electric trains, miniature racing cars and airplanes. Thus, from the very beginning, the girl is taught to identify herself with her mother, to fit herself into the role of a woman. The girl praises or scolds the dolls, just like her mother praises and scolds. For her, it is child's play to absorb the principles of leadership; A girl's education, like a boy's, is based on praise, but only when she identifies with the feminine role, so that she never wants to be anything other than "feminine." The standard set of values ​​will inevitably remain feminine forever, since only women can judge how good their own role is (men are taught that the female role is inferior, so there is nothing to praise women for). The boy is constantly praised for everything except playing with dolls. He builds models of dams, bridges and canals, takes apart toy cars to see how they work, shoots toy guns, and practices on a small scale everything he will need in life as he provides for a woman. By the time the average boy reaches school age, he is already familiar with the basic principles of mechanics, biology and electrical engineering, all of which he has learned through personal experience. He can build wooden houses and defend them in imaginary wars. The more initiative he shows, the more he is praised. The woman wants him to develop to the point where he knows more than she does. His knowledge must surpass hers in everything related to work, because a woman cannot survive without a man. For a woman, a man is a kind of machine, albeit a rather unusual one. Her ideal, if she could define it, would be a robot that could think, program itself, continue to evolve, and perform the optimal set of operations for each individual situation. (Scientists are also working on creating such robots that will work for them, make decisions for them, think for them and make the results of their work available to them; but these robots will be created from inanimate matter.) Long before a man is in able to independently choose his own lifestyle, he will form the necessary dependence on praise. He will only be happy when his work brings him praise, and since he is dependent, his need will increase and increase, and with it the level of achievement that is so highly valued by his woman. This male need can, of course, be satisfied by another man, but since each man is working feverishly in the interests of his own dependence, he has no time to help others. Indeed, a man exists, so to speak, in a state of constant hostile competition with other men. This is one of the reasons why he wastes no time in finding a personal admirer, one whose praise will be his exclusive right, one who will always be at home,: +7 (917) 578-66-59