Good afternoon. Today we will turn to a question that often arises in people in the context of intimacy. We'll talk about cunnilingus and blowjob. Let's discuss and figure it out. Let's go. First of all, I'll start with the fact that if someone has a question: is it worth doing cunnilingus or blowjob - the answer is clear and affirmative - yes, it's worth it. To understand this and discard dense stereotypes, you just need to clarify for yourself and together with your partner a few basic points and enjoy. So, let's go in order. Let's start by discussing the psychological function of oral sex. And this main function is the implementation of power... through soft control. Moreover, power and control in oral sex are not realized in the way that many may think at first glance. The fact is that power and control are not in the hands of the partner who is receiving cunnilingus or blowjob, but in the hands of the partner who is doing it. While the partner receiving caresses is in a passive, essentially vulnerable position, despite the fact that he is on top in the process. Yes, of course, healthy power and control in sex is a dynamic variable, not a static one and this dynamic is set by the logic of the process, however, in a general sense, during oral sex the distribution of power and control is exactly this. The one who gives has more power, the one who receives has less. If we understand the psychological function, then we move on and discuss this point. Oral sex can be, let’s say, an independent event and not turn into sex with penetration, or it can be just a little play and foreplay. And if we are not talking about something spontaneous, when there was no time to discuss, then... it is best to agree with your partner in advance about what will happen and why. This is important in order to avoid misunderstandings and disappointments in the style of “well, I thought that then something else will happen…” and separately, such clarification can be important for a man in terms of achieving orgasm. Because if, after oral sex, sex with penetration is planned, then blowjob should not be brought to orgasm, since in this case the man will need quite a significant amount of time to return to “combat readiness.” It is also important to discuss in advance whether oral sex will be performed in a particular situation mutual or towards only one of the partners. This measure also helps prevent misunderstandings in the style of “but I thought that you would do the same to me...”. Situations are different, so you don’t need to think for your partner, you need to ask. And one more point that significantly influences the desire or unwillingness to give a partner a blowjob or cunnilingus is the hygiene of the intimate area, in particular, the presence of hair there. With the exception of individual preferences, hair in the intimate area should be removed, at least in the area of ​​direct touch during oral sex. This must be done precisely as a manifestation of concern for the partner, especially for men. Moreover, when the genitals are fully visible, it becomes easier for the partner to understand what and how can be done. And this, by the way, has been confirmed many times in my practice by client stories when one of the partners was afraid and did not know how to give oral pleasure, because the genitals were not really visible because of the hair. Moreover, these observations were shared by both men and women. Well, another question regarding hygiene is the need to take a shower (or at least just wash yourself) before oral sex, because the smell affects the partner’s desire and mood no less than the visual component. In conclusion, I will say that oral sex is good and useful as a practice for bringing partners closer together. Oral sex is valuable both in itself and as a prelude to penetrative sex. Cunnilingus and blowjob should definitely be done when possible and mutually desired. For sex and oral sex, in particular, to be a joy, you only need a few simple things: firstly, an interest in the pleasure of your partner, and secondly, respect for your partner. Sex is a bodily practice and its mastery.