From the author: from my blogVery often people search the Internet for queries like: - how to deal with a psychologist, - how to resist a psychologist, - can psychologists enslave our minds, - how to make a psychologist dance to your pipe and so on...1) It turns out that some people perceive a psychologist as an enemy or, at a minimum, as a partisan. “What will he think of me” or “He will see me and understand everything about me (including something secret)” Yes, yes, with such a special device that shines through, like an X-ray. By the way, they are issued in all psychological universities. Of course, the psychologist sees something, but what? As they say in systemic family therapy, the primary hypothesis is usually false. But this does not stop us from building it. There are also those who want to play tricks with the psychologist: “He thinks that with his questions he will bring me to light, but I won’t give in to him!” Recently at one of the conferences I heard the question “A what to do if the client is lying." “Well, this is HIS untruth,” was the answer, “to work in exactly the same way as with the so-called truth.” 2) Someone wants to convict a psychologist, for example, of little experience, age, condition, troubles in his personal life . Of course, if you have problems in life, you are a bad psychologist ;-) And since a psychologist is often expected to have some special life wisdom, as if he were a guru, they try to find someone older. And when you ask, why older? then things usually don’t go further than “well, he has more experience.” It’s not clear why the client needs someone else’s experience - is he thinking of sewing it on himself? 3) Someone perceives going to a psychologist as weakness. “Others seem to be coping well, but am I mentally ill!?” or “Before, I managed on my own without a psychologist, which means that now I have to cope on my own.” Or “I’m an adult, I know everything about myself.” 4) Still others are afraid to “get hooked” on a psychologist. It’s as if it’s a drug... Although going to a psychologist improves the quality of your life, like going to the movies or getting a manicure. Is it possible to get hooked on manicures? Yes: once you start doing a manicure, you continue to do it - it seems more neat. It’s the same with a psychologist.5) Some people want to go to a psychologist “once and for all,” they say, I don’t need it anymore, I’m normal! Do you also go to the dentist once in your life? For some reason, it doesn’t occur to anyone to treat their teeth on their own and blame it on the dentist if caries appears again... So, how can you “outsmart” a psychologist? Perhaps, first of all, find someone who will care about your interests, and not about practicing hypnotism. Agree on the fee and amount of time in advance. About the procedure for visits and passes, about vacations and the possibility or impossibility of communicating by phone in “emergency” cases. Conclude an oral contract. Ask him to show you a diploma of higher education or retraining, certificates, etc. Don’t be shy to ask questions, talk about yourself, make sure you get something you need from the consultation, solve your problems - and don’t worry about “what he will think of you.” Sometimes you need to try to go to one or two and choose who you like more. Rely on your own opinion and instinct. http://ekaterina-pushkareva.com