People often talk about responsibility. Lawyers, teachers, psychologists, spouses to each other, parents to children and teenagers talk about it. But what is responsibility? In Ozhegov’s explanatory dictionary, the concept is explained as follows: responsibility is the need to give an account of one’s actions. Psychologists understand the term a little differently and give a broader definition. Responsibility is the ability to fulfill obligations and follow the rules accepted in society, as well as to understand the consequences of one's influence on the world. But how do they perceive the big word that adults and teenagers are always talking about? During puberty, a child can be infantile. This is normal for him. Of course, each teenager has his own degree of infantilism. In some it is more pronounced, in others it is weaker. But one way or another, on a subconscious level, teenagers understand that their parents are responsible for everything. The fact is that puberty does not yet have a full awareness of the world. There is a lot they don't understand yet. And life experience is not enough. For them, responsibility is a vague concept. And besides, teenagers often cannot trace the cause-and-effect relationship between an event or action and the consequences that come afterwards. But there is also good news. Responsibility is not a part of character, but a value guideline that a grown-up child, with the help of adults, can acquire. How can parents help? How to create responsibility in a teenager? “When you turn 18, then you will decide for yourself, but for now I am responsible for you” - Parents often shout in a fit of emotion. Which is wrong. Yes, if a teenager’s life is in danger, sometimes such an argument can be used, but not at those moments when the teenager chooses which club to go to, which university to enroll in. That is, parents should not impose their goals on puberty. It is better to discuss his own plans and tasks. Find out if he is ready for them, if he is ready to make an effort. After all, any goals can be unobtrusively adjusted. In addition, it would not be a bad idea to tell the teenager what awaits him on the way to realizing his plans. For example, a teenage child dreams of becoming a Hollywood star, and for this he needs to know English perfectly. Parents need to find out if he is ready to complete these tasks. Responsibility and obedience are two different things. What are the differences? An obedient, dutiful puberty will enthusiastically do schoolwork and get excellent grades, but it will be done for show, so that mom and dad don’t get upset or get into trouble. The person in charge will develop a plan to always be on top and get good grades - and not just so, but for the sake of knowledge. The first one follows the instructions, the second one thinks about the consequences. Subscribe to my VKontakte community and get a bonus: the meditative practice “Shamatha”. Calm your mind and find inner peace! https://vk.com/app5898182_-224026628#u=1791044&s=2609310