I. Yalom: “When I first began working with patients with terminal cancer, 40 years ago, I suffered from death anxiety and frequent nightmares. I recalled my personal psychotherapy - 700 hours, and was stunned when I realized that not once in those 700 hours The topic of death was not raised. We never talked about my death. I realized that in order to work with incurable patients, I had to go through personal work with my fear of death, and I turned to Rollo May." "A patient dying of cancer with whom I worked. I. Yalom once said that she regretted that she was not brave enough. Yalom returned her to the “here and now” and asked whether she was brave enough here and now. The patient replied that she was not: “And Yalom. If you were brave here, what would you tell me?" The patient replied: "Why are you charging me so much? Why do you need so much money?" Yalom said that he admired her courage and offered to cut the payment in half." From the speech of S.V. Shtukareva: A client came to the therapist who had lost her child - before her eyes, her daughter was hit by a car. The mother was nearby, immediately ran up and took her daughter in her arms. The child, a couple of minutes later, died in her arms, bleeding. For several years, the woman, every night, saw a picture of her daughter dying in her arms. The therapist told the client: “I’m very sorry, nothing can be done about it, the trauma and pain will remain. I’m very glad that it was you who raised your daughter, exactly The last thing she saw was your face, not the traces of dirty tires on the road, but your face, you protected your daughter, you gave her your love. Nothing can be done about the sadness and the trauma, too. But you did something priceless for your daughter.” I. Yalom: About regrets over lost opportunities: “I always ask my clients what they regret in their lives and say: “Imagine that we meet in a year or two. What new regrets would you accumulate? How should you live your life so that these regrets do not accumulate more and more." Ability for psychotherapy or training in psychotherapy: Yalom, referring to Carl Rogers, answered: "Therapists are not trained, therapists are selected. And the most important thing is to undergo as much therapy as a client. Working on yourself is what a therapist should do all his life." Therapy via Skype: "At first I didn't like Skype. I believed that direct communication between client and therapist was important. About 5 years ago, a client came to me from Greenland, where there is not a single therapist at a distance of several thousand kilometers. We started working on Skype, we were able to do a lot and make good progress. One of her problems was that she was very afraid and avoided close communication, so she moved to a remote corner of Greenland. In one room she would try to distance herself and close herself off from me. And Skype allowed her to be safe. Now I work a lot on Skype. Sometimes it is easier for a client to open up when he is not next to the therapist." About death: "None of us can be completely free from the fear of death. Death throughout our lives reminds us of itself when loved ones, friends, relatives die." About life: "I am 83 years old, my life is getting better than it was before. Of course, there are certain health problems, but from a psychological point of view, my life is getting better and better, you have hope."