Oh, how difficult it is for me to stay for a long time in a space where psychological rules reign. Oh, how impossible it is to read about asserting boundaries, criticizing addiction and calm happiness. Oh really!) Psychology is my fourth love. Before her, there was life in all its diversity, which did not fit into any rules of self-love. In that life there was much more about others, and about oneself through others. And therefore I know for sure that in a happy relationship there can be an incredible dependence on the mood of the loved one, that without love everything loses its meaning, and that there is a lot of painful things in love, but this does not make it less happy. Last week I came across an interview with Diana Arbenina. No, I don't really, really like her. But I really liked the interview. It rushed towards me like a free wind, I picked up her non-psychological, incorrect enthusiasm about this life and decided to share with you. “I live in order to work, and I don’t work in order to live,” she says, and I know like this. I, too, have always lived to work, and if work is taken away, then what for such a life. “I don’t know how to be happy in love, I will always find something to suffer because of,” she says, and I remember how at the dawn of my youth I could be paranoid about the wrong tone of the letter, as it seemed to me, and reflect on the last date for hours. “You must be the first to ask for forgiveness.” - she says, and I know this ability to ask for forgiveness without worrying about violating your boundaries is a very cool skill. Life only with such attitudes suits me, it’s the only way I’m ready to endure it) “Without love, everything else loses its meaning,” she says, and I not only think the same, I also remember Shakespeare, the same overturner of all modern psychological rules who is sure that there is no love without fear. “As love grows, fear inside also grows. The more fear, the more love.” How do you like this turn? “I’m afraid that my heart will be broken and that’s why I’m leaving first,” says Diana, and I…. Yazhpsychologist... I know this is about avoidant attachment…. But I think it’s very possible to live with her)