For example, a person came up with an idea, imagined it, and expected that when he would give a report to the audience, everyone would look at him, listen carefully, and ask questions of interest. But in reality it turns out that the audience is bored, someone in the third row is talking to a neighbor and is not paying attention and is generally not interested in the speaker. This is the point of tension. A person wanted one thing, but something else happens. The conflict is still at the level of idea and implementation. Further, this conflict can become manifested externally. The speaker may begin to calm down, tut, make comments to those who do not listen to him, or interrupt. And those from the third row can begin to counter him. And there can be quite a lot of similar situations, where the reality that is happening does not clash with internal ideas. But we can close our eyes to some, pass by, and not even notice, and some discrepancies cause us a storm of different feelings, emotions, and sensations. A person’s reaction depends on several factors: what emotional state the person is in, how ready he is to experience frustrations, and what previous experience he has of encountering similar things, his level of self-awareness. Of course, we gain experience in behavior in conflicts in very early childhood. A child, growing up and developing , more than once faces frustration in a variety of circumstances. Mom picked him up too late, or, on the contrary, doesn’t let go for a long time, but already wants to crawl, walk, run. By and large, through encounters with limitations, personality development and experience are gained. The child wants to laugh loudly, but he is asked to be quieter. I wanted to take a toy from the store, but my mother didn’t buy it. Internal conflicts between “I want” and “I can’t” shape character traits. A girl wants to dance, makes faces in front of the mirror, puts on her mother’s shoes and dresses, and instead of supporting the child’s artistry and creativity, admiring her charm, she may receive an evaluative comment from a parent, saying, “Why are you here?” dressed up, take it off, it’s not yours, you can’t, it’s not nice. And even worse is the punishment. Having matured, there is a possibility that this girl will hardly be happy to twirl around in outfits in front of the mirror, move freely and show her artistry. Most likely this will be under internal ban. And what a person forbids to himself, even with the help of someone else in childhood, still looks for a way to be realized. And when a person notices that another easily and gladly realizes what he is not allowed, more often this can cause condemnation , hostility, irritation, anger, envy. Internal prohibitions are often unconscious; we absorb them from a very early age. Internal conflicts often lead to external ones. The inability to hear, accept a point of view, look from a different angle is, first of all, an indicator of the attitude towards oneself: “I’m not ready to accept myself differently, I don’t have the right to express myself, I don’t have the right to be like that, and therefore I will not allow another, just as others did not allow me to do this.” The path to resolving external conflicts can begin with finding a solution within.