From the author: Family Session Magazine March 2010 How do women expecting a child perceive the news that they have not one, but two small hearts beating under their hearts? Some feel confused because they are completely unprepared for such an addition to the family. Others, on the contrary, experience incredible happiness and are ready to overcome all hardships just to bear and safely give birth to their babies. Miracle squared Most women pregnant with twins have mixed feelings - involuntary fear and at the same time the expectation of something amazing and joyful. The shock caused by the news of twins can quickly pass as soon as the expectant mother realizes the benefits of having two children at the same time: the family immediately becomes complete and complete. However, if the family already has children, such news can bring real fear. Two more children are a significant burden on the living space, time, material well-being and lifestyle of the family. It is very important that bright feelings prevail in the expectant mother during pregnancy. This requires the support of family and friends, regular medical monitoring, and, in addition, the woman herself must know well what she needs to be prepared for, what are the features of multiple pregnancy and possible complications. At the same time, it is important to dispel fears that have no basis. For example, you should not believe the myths that all twins are born defective, and they can only be born through a caesarean section. In many cases, everything is exactly the opposite: twins are born naturally, and the babies enter our world healthy and developed. Dear, we are having twins! A man also needs time to appreciate this wonderful gift life has given him. The future dad may withdraw for a while and avoid talking about the upcoming birth of children in every possible way. Be patient and support him. After all, at first you felt not only joy, but also anxiety and lack of confidence in your own abilities. Many men only finally accept the fact of dual paternity when they first see their children on an ultrasound. The beating of their hearts, visible movements on the screen, are the best proof that he will soon become the father of two pretty girls, two boys, or a girl and a boy, will best help him cope with internal conflicts. Many mothers of twins note that during the difficult recovery period After childbirth, it was their husbands who were their best helpers. Fathers of twins are much more likely to help their wives, apparently due to the greater visibility of the difficulties that befall the woman. Young dads master all the skills of caring for babies - feeding, swaddling, bathing, etc. And some men simply begin to feel pregnant too. They, like expectant mothers, experience pregnancy not only mentally, but also physically: they gain weight, get tired quickly, get nervous over trifles, and some even feel sick in the morning. Such symptoms have long been known to medicine as “male” pregnancy syndrome. Half of future fathers experience this phenomenon, but among fathers of twins or triplets it is much more common. This suggests that a man is twice as responsible for what is happening: he is more worried about the successful course of the pregnancy, about the health of his wife and future children. Time for discovery Nine months of double pregnancy is a big challenge. This is the time during which not only the formation and growth of babies occurs, but also the formation of a couple as future parents of twins. Use this time to emotionally prepare for your new role. Imagine your future children, how they will grow, who they will look like, who will rock them to sleep and change their diapers... Do not be afraid of the difficulties ahead! After all, children are not only sleepless nights and diapers, they are also incredible happiness. When you watch them grow, they begin to walk,!