We are social creatures, and therefore we are very dependent on the opinions of other people, even if they are not experts in this field and have nothing to do with us. We are sensitive, gentle and very worried about every crooked word spoken about ourselves or something important and close to us. This is normal, we should not be ashamed of this and suppress our feelings. Defense by attack, feigned indifference, cynicism, devaluation, self-deprecation - all this only harms health and only slightly throws dust in the eyes of critics. And even the understanding that they themselves are hurt and scared, that this is their only joy, does not in any way make things easier and does not help them cope with the situation. Criticism behind our eyes can be visible to us in three ways: - someone directly told us - this happened in the form of a comment on a social network - we invent for ourselves what’s in someone’s head. In the first case, if the narrator deserves your trust, and criticism really harms the cause, it’s worth finding a way to neutralize what happened. If it doesn’t deserve it, then just repeat 20 times: “Thank you for the criticism and growth, everyone likes me, myself and my man / my woman always.” Thank you for your praise and support!” This mantra has proven itself to be an excellent self-training tool for many public figures, not to mention people who do not have to deal with such constant pressure. In the case of a comment on a social network, it should be deleted and the commentator blocked . This way you save a lot of time and effort according to the “out of sight, out of mind” principle. Moreover, if this is a professional moment, then you are not filtering out your audience and, possibly, attacks from competitors. If you are drawn to a righteous fight, then it is better to delete and block, but you can swear loudly at the same time)) If you are just figuring out how something can react to something, it is better to think about this. They all care about you exactly as much as you care about them. That is, very little. And if you are a busy person, you simply have no time for all this. And the evil onlookers, even if they are your close relatives, let them continue to yawn, you simply don’t have time to deal with all this. You are on your way to success while they are blowing bubbles in their swamp. When you come across criticism in your face, harsh, angry and, of course, unfounded, try not to get confused and use this little cheat sheet. Take one, two, or all of them in order as consistent responses to attacks. Works like concrete for a tennis ball: 1) Thanks for your feedback, that's enough. 2) Repeat. Are you sure of your words? 3) Are you trying to make me dissatisfied with myself so that it’s like yours? 4) I don’t accept this, please leave it to yourself. 5) You should work on this moment for yourself, such a reaction is harmful to health. Try it, use it, free up your energy and time for creativity! Zen psychology courses: https://zen-psychology.com/programs/Sign up for a consultation: https://zen-psychology.com/appointment/