Conflicts are inevitable. It doesn’t matter with whom: with children, with a spouse, with parents, with friends, with colleagues. They are inevitable, because each individual person is a whole system of views and beliefs, which is often formed throughout life, and therefore, most often, is very stable. Because of the collision of such systems, conflicts usually occur. What to do with them? The answer to this question depends on what exactly you want to achieve. But as a rule, confrontation does not lead to what is desired. A couple more questions arise here - why does a person believe that through conflict he will achieve something? And why is he ready to conflict in order to achieve acceptance of the other side of the conflict of his beliefs? And why does he need this? Yes, it is not always the case that a conflicting person needs recognition of his beliefs. It happens that he is trying to satisfy some of his needs. If you have a conflict with just such a person, then why not ask him directly what he wants from you? If it turns out that he really wants something from you, then that means what he expects. Now ask yourself: are you ready to meet his expectations? What will this cost you personally? What are you sacrificing? Or vice versa - it costs you nothing. And what do you think will happen if you give in? It often happens that a person simply feels bad. We don't always know how satisfied he is with his current state and life in general. And we don’t always take this into account, even if we know it. So here it is. Resorting to conflicts with or without cause, such a person usually tries to transform his dissatisfaction into an external impulse and throw it out. And most often he does it unconsciously. He is not ready (or afraid) to pay attention to himself and look for the reason for such negativity in the way he relates to the events in his life. Now ask yourself again: are you ready to conflict with such a person? And what are your goals in this? Just consider the likelihood that you will always be to blame in the process of such a conflict. Because your arguments, no matter how obvious they may seem to you, will not be considered as such by anyone but you. So what should we do in the end? To join or to retreat? I don’t have an answer. Entering into a conflict does not mean at all that there is something wrong with the cuckoo, just like retreating does not mean becoming a coward. In a conflict, each side always has its own interests. Maybe if we exchange them, and don’t insist on them, then (who the hell isn’t kidding!) we might just be able to come to an agreement.