Unfortunately, repressed emotions don't die. They were silenced. And they continue to influence a person from within. Z. Freud. I want to start with a call to reflection. How do you handle difficult feelings from another person directed at you or when you witness another person expressing their feelings? How do you feel when the person next to you is sad? Or what is a person voicing claims against another in your presence? When two people swear loudly in your presence or when they swear at you? When does one shame another for something (or you personally)? It is not always necessary to react to the anger of another with anger, we cannot always respond to the pain of another with the same pain. And, if we realize that we cannot withstand the feeling of another person, then the reason lies in childhood experience. Let's immediately take a practical look: Who showed this difficult feeling for you? How did you feel when someone else showed them? How did the person behave? What did you say? Did you do it? What did he look like? What did he broadcast and what did he want from you? The reactions remain childish, because in, conditionally, a person shouting at me, I see the one who shouted at me as a child. Next: What did you begin to think about yourself at that moment? What did you do? What did you say? How did you feel? How did you react to the complex feelings of others as a child? Was there really something wrong with you? (Were you really bad there?) The most important thing is that the child feels something, but cannot express it and puts the feelings away. Does this mean that they no longer influence him? No. Unfortunately, repressed emotions don't die. They were silenced. And they continue to influence a person from the inside. In adulthood, this will manifest itself in the inability to protect oneself, not knowing who I really am, and whether it’s possible to say anything at all, and not understanding, but how one can behave. And an adult already begins to think that if he expresses his feelings, then everyone will turn away from him, such a bad person. He's just scared to express. Freedom is born in a new experience of expressing feelings. When a person can express anger, envy, sadness, etc. and no one will turn away from him at this moment, but will see, support, respond and stay with him.