INCOMMUNITY WITHOUT OBLIGATIONS “You are all eager to get into this bed.. Why? Getting into bed is not a problem. Then you try to get out of it!”, one wise woman said to young businessmen. And if the then 30-year-olds batted their eyes: “That is, how is this - why? For That! We must!”, then men 40 and older chuckled quietly and nodded their heads sympathetically: “Yeah, you can’t get out later.. " What's the catch? And the fact is that there is no “without obligation.” In any case, mutual exchange arises. And the theme of recent times - “I want a woman to give me everything (sex, love, borscht, shirts), and in return - without obligations” - it is not accidental. Men who have not undergone initiation, who are in adulthood in an unconscious fusion with their mother and unconscious competition with their father - this is primarily an important story for them. An uninitiated man does not take responsibility because he is afraid of becoming like his father: devalued by his wife, “excluded” from raising children, rejected... And then the boy remains the psychological “partner” of his mother for life. And no woman can compete with her. And in women they are looking for the same mother, with the traditional set of “no brainwashing, no obligations.” But that doesn't happen. And the same uninitiated girls fall into this game, unconsciously proving, first of all, to themselves: “I am cooler than (mother, another woman..)” Because if a woman has contact with herself and her feelings, she is very quickly understands his pain and his boundaries in this regard: “Honey, you’re cool, but you’re beyond my strength. I can’t handle this (number of women, no obligations...). I’m sorry.” And in response to the remark: “Commitment is boring and banal,” such women say: “Yes. I am exactly boring and banal.” And wounding contact simply does not happen. What about the man? It is in his interests to go through his Initiations in a man's world: to become an Adult, make decisions, do Business, earn big money, and not play with cars. Because yes - Adult Games are in the world of Adults. And only children have no obligations. . #Yulia Fedorova#PsychologyForLife #Relationships Without Obligations