Love yourself, accept yourself and feel needed in this world - these slogans are heard everywhere on the Internet and cause only one reaction, irritation and anger. People see perfect pictures on social networks, where girls smile, show their bodies, the surrounding atmospheric environment, amazing clothes, and inside them there is a huge hole and emptiness, but people don’t show this behind the smartphone screen. Loneliness and emptiness are a very painful feeling that On the one hand, it can bring pain and a feeling of rejection, abandonment, uselessness, on the other hand, loneliness is a sweet feeling that allows you to be alone with nature, with your feelings, thoughts, alone with your body. Often people see loneliness as a destructive function in which they They face rejection, but this is only one side of the coin. People who, as adults, are repeatedly traumatized by rejection, feel lonely and abandoned, just as mom once left him alone in kindergarten and left, or like dad used regular psychological punishments, forbidding them to realize their little harmless desires and needs over and over again. Lack of support, a ban on the expression of feelings, a ban on the realization of desires and safe children's wishes, regular coercion of responsibilities through violence can be the basis for feelings of loneliness, rejection, abandonment and uselessness. How to deal with this feeling and how to help yourself to start a step step by step, gradually return to your natural desires, feelings and finally gain freedom from prohibitions? This is a very complex and interesting path in which you need to create a new experience of attachment in a safe therapeutic relationship, develop the skill of natural self-acceptance, and the first, second and third steps on this path will be: 1. learn to distinguish thoughts from feelings, bodily reactions and behavior. 2. develop the skill of self-reflection, which will help you cope with difficulties and provide self-support, experience feelings alone with yourself, find contradictory beliefs and rethink internal phenomena.3. start taking new actions that will contribute to changes in your life.