From the author: I really like to use stories in my work. I decided to put it in writing, I hope both specialists and those interested will like it. A story about the Flag. Introduction: The main metaphor belongs to Jean Marie Robin, a famous French Gestalt therapist. This was at the end of the MHI winter conference in 2006. In his final speech, Jean Marie asked the audience what love is in one word. “Friendship,” “Renunciation,” “Self-sacrifice,” “Pleasure,” came from different ends of the hall. “Don’t deceive yourself,” said the Teacher, “Slavic love in one word is "Suffering." Remember your folklore, favorite songs, children's fairy tales, Slavic films - and you will understand that I am right. Actually, a story about the Flag. A man lies. He is wounded, exhausted, exhausted - it’s immediately obvious that he has just gotten out of a difficult relationship. Nearby lies his tattered Flag, on which one can hardly make out the inscription “Seeking Suffering.” As soon as he comes to his senses, the person thinks: “Serious relationship - it’s serious!” Do I want a new relationship? NO!!!". It even makes me shiver! Some time passes, the wounds begin to heal, the nightmares begin to be forgotten. “Well, am I ready for a new relationship? No, it still hurts, I’m not ready.” And yet, after a while, the wounds stopped bothering him, his strength accumulated, and the sun came out, adding hope. Now ready. And then he slowly, with an effort, gets up, raises his patched Flag, and carefully straightens it. “I’m looking for suffering” flies proudly in the wind. Slowly at first, then faster and faster it goes to people. From afar, he begins to carefully look at the Flags of other people, looking with hope for one similar to his own. Those Who See Differently can predict the outcome of the next relationship. And what is written on your Flag? What would you like to write there??