How do you like this metaphor in a relationship, where the music of love is the emotions and mood that a couple experiences? Ideally, when a couple plays in unison, experiences positive feelings, and dances to this music simply amazing. But what if everyone hears their own music, experiences their own feelings, which are far from positive, and everyone has their own dance? Every situation in a couple’s relationship is the result of the actions of both. It is important to take responsibility for the mood in a relationship, since a lot depends on you. Everyone’s understanding and vision of the situation may be different. Example 1. A wife gets annoyed with her husband because things are scattered about. She sees him as inattentive to her requests. At the same time, he sees her as controlling. Example 2. A wife asked her husband to come home from work as early as possible because she needed help with the children. He has important work to do and is delayed. She thinks that her requests mean nothing to him, and if so, then perhaps he does not love her at all. What could her emotions be at this moment? And her husband, while at an important meeting, tries to explain to her over the phone that the point is not his unwillingness to help, but the fact that now he is not able to leave earlier. Perhaps he is experiencing a feeling of powerlessness in the face of the situation and irritation from misunderstandings on the part of his wife. What else do you think he or she might think in such situations? At such moments, when the melody of a relationship becomes unpleasant and unintelligible, it is important to find a common language and understand each other in order to avoid conflicts and maintain harmony in the relationship. Try to look at the situation from above, through the eyes of your partner. Put yourself in his place, try to understand his feelings and vision of the situation. What does he or she see in this situation? Marriage is a dialogue. It is important to agree and discuss everything together, this is the only way to solve problems. The point of Family Therapy is to restore the connection between partners and understand your own responsibility for your happiness. What music do you hear in your relationship now? Even if everything seems complicated, your couple can begin to sound new. The music can be changed, tuned in a new way, and with it the dance of love will change.