After reading the book by famous psychologists Janey and Berry Weinhold, “Counterdependency: Escape from Intimacy,” I found a point that resonated with me, about the equality of relationships, about how people often play the role of “rescuers” in relationships. And it doesn’t matter what kind of relationship it is, partner, friendly or otherwise. Once upon a time I “loved” to be a kind of “rescuer”, and involuntarily, I turned into a “victim”, or even a “persecutor”. And so, the book well describes Karpman's drama triangle, which is a series of games of power and control, developing in a spiral, between the Rescuer, the Victim and the Persecutor, which allows people to satisfy their needs. Karpman writes that these three dramatic roles are actually melodramatic simplifications of real life. We see ourselves as generous Rescuers of a grateful or ungrateful Victim, righteous Persecutors of the wicked, and Victims of cruel Persecutors. By immersing ourselves in any of these roles, we begin to ignore reality, like actors on stage who know they are living a fictional life but must pretend to believe it is real in order to create a good performance. At the same time, we never linger in just one role. I will not describe specifically what kind of relationships are in Trugolnik, but I want to share an idea that arose when I was reading the book. I will also share some thoughts of the authors themselves. Since in the old days I myself was under the power of such relationships, I want to say that it is not easy to get out of them. And I understand why people with similar problems came to me for consultation at that time. And my thought is about “Rescue.” Psychologists often attract clients whose themes are consonant with their own. The psychologist's personal post-traumatic experience creates a drama in which both client and psychologist can play together. But, thanks to personal therapy, we are psychologists, we know how to cope and not play the “rescue” game. I want to say that you need to learn to avoid “rescuing” another person, since this is a SOFT WAY TO GAIN POWER OVER OTHERS. When you do something for others, something that they can do for themselves, and you do not ask whether he needs it, or the person does not ask you for it, then you are engaged in “rescue.” This sets the stage for problems. You create the illusion that this person will be useful to you. You "think" you have power over him. But on the day when you expect that this person “owes to you in good conscience” to do something, but this does not happen and your expectations are not met, you fall into a feeling of disappointment, feelings of ingratitude and resentment. The game you “lure” yourself into turns you from a “RESCUER” into a “VICTIM”. Therefore, it is important to try to talk about what we want, what we don’t, and what we need. This prevents "rescue" and returns responsibility to everyone for meeting their own needs. Karpman's drama triangle, like a carousel, can continue to play forever! The first step towards change can be the intention to stop satisfying your needs only in the position of a victim and start DIRECTLY ASKING for what you need and need. The second step is REFUSING TO SAVE OTHERS. By taking these two steps, you can remove the drama triangle from your relationship..