ATTACHMENT in child psychology - a concept that concerns only children and their parents? Not at all! Its quality is relevant for parents and children throughout the entire process of child development, and becomes especially significant during periods of crisis, for example, for adolescents. Attachment is a strong connection between a child and an adult, a necessary condition for the development of a healthy personality. If a child has the opportunity to build quality attachments in childhood, in the future he will be able to build warm relationships with other people - friends, a future spouse. If he does not have such an opportunity, then it is unlikely that the person will be happy in his future family. Gordon Neufeld called a strong connection with a child a kind of cocoon in which they can grow up calmly, and which can protect him from any blows of fate. Scientists have found that a child is only open to any educational influence when he is attached to an adult. Thus, first we must develop an attachment relationship with the child, and only then expect him to respond to our educational actions. And one more thing: research data confirms that children who were attached to their parents in childhood are less likely to use drugs and alcohol in adolescence than those children whose attachment was disrupted. How can children feel affection? Through physical proximity: the ability to feel the touch of a loved one, hear his voice, look into his eyes, inhale his scent. Through a feeling of importance and need for a loved one. Through the understanding that you are cared for, that you are worthy of care. Through the desire to share secrets with your loved one, to trust him. Through the feeling that they know about your shortcomings and still love, accept, approve and rejoice in the fact that you exist. Unfortunately, sometimes attachment relationships can be disrupted. How can we understand this? Avoidance of contact, reluctance to communicate. A look that forces you to keep your distance. Refusal to smile, look at you, give a hand, hug. Eyes averted. Mimicking, arrogance, contempt. Bullying and ridicule, insults and humiliating statements... We will not dwell in detail on the reasons for the violation of attachment; in each specific case, a combination of factors operates. It is much more important to convey the good news: an adult CAN restore a broken attachment or prevent it from being destroyed. Neufeld suggests the following methods. Begin your communication with your child kindly. For infants, parents show this skill automatically; with older children, parents often forget about this. Already at the age of 11 – 17 months, a child faces a ban every 9 minutes! If a parent begins to take the relationship for granted, then this is a disaster for the child's attachment. It is important, when starting communication after any separation (even if the child only watched cartoons), to achieve a response, namely: - a glance; - smile; - nod. It is important to show your child that he is special and that you are glad to have him in your life. How can this be done? 1. Physical component (hug, stroke, take hand...) 2. Expression of admiration for the very fact of its existence (tell your child how happy you are that you have him, what role he plays in your life...) 3. Invite child to contact when he does not ask, to offer something when he least expects it.4. Offer help - ask how you can help, what support you can provide. 5. Orient the child: explain what is happening, play the role of a mentor. Orientate where you are, what you are doing now, what you will do later, what he should do. Orient him at the beginning of the day, informing him of his plans for the day. 6. If you break up, try to maintain a connection at a distance: give him your photo, thing, note, record your voice on a voice recorder, call at the specified time, give him a handkerchief with your 15?