Continuation of the article “What’s wrong with my mother or a narcissistic mother.” Part 2: Narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a need for flattery, and a lack of empathy. A narcissistic mother is very envious, but she herself will never admit it. Such a mother never praises her daughter and is always dissatisfied with her. It is almost impossible to please such a mother. When the daughter becomes an adult, the mother begins to see her as a competitor, envies her youth and beauty, her successes and her abilities, and tries in every possible way to devalue her appearance or taste, interests and hobbies. For example, she can find “kind” words and the necessary epithets for her daughter: “dressed like a Ryazan woman”, “put on that tug again”, “made up like a doll”.. She constantly complains to her friends and relatives about her daughter, attributing all her sins to her. world, at the same time, with all his appearance he portrays himself as a victim who heroically fights for the virtues and well-being of an ungrateful and wayward daughter. The daughter wears things that her mother bought - something gray and nondescript, something old from her mother or something she got from others. She likes to say that modesty adorns a girl... The mother will not dress up her daughter. Doesn't see the need for this. The mother herself loves to change outfits, buy herself new clothes and jewelry, and admire herself. He loves to talk about his successes, his importance, his merits. It is almost impossible for a daughter to beg pity or sympathy or attention to her problems from such a mother. But, if it succeeds, the mother uses it for her own purposes, for example, to strengthen her power over her daughter and the ability to manipulate her. All conversations with the mother come down to her own person and her problems. She can talk about herself endlessly. A grateful listener is the best gift for her. The girl's femininity is suppressed in every possible way by her mother, a narcissist; she does not need a rival. Bans, humiliation, sarcasm, insults are used, and physical force can be used. All methods are used to allow the mother to assert her power and subjugate her daughter. Such a mother controls her daughter’s personal life, jealously monitors her communication, reads letters and diaries, invades her daughter’s personal space, citing the fact that she cares and worries. In fact, the mother is very afraid that her daughter will be more successful than her, will get married more successfully, and will live a happier life. If a daughter decides to get a profession and chooses an educational institution she likes, the mother will definitely convince her daughter by all means that she can’t go there anyway, that this is not what she needs, that it is harmful to her health, etc., etc. ., and will force her to enter an institution that does not at all correspond to her daughter’s interests or abilities, and where she will serve her duty without understanding why she is here. And then he will go to work simply by inertia, because it is necessary. The narcissistic mother is jealous of her daughter’s husband and tries to control the father’s communication with her daughter. Can force a father to punish his daughter, can turn him against his daughter. Mothers are narcissists and excellent manipulators. They will find ways to achieve what they want. Such a mother will in every possible way assert her power over her household, constantly emphasizing her importance and her merits, again and again listing her sufferings, and the sacrifice she made for her husband and children. Heavy artillery is used - playing on the guilt of loved ones. Now they are in her hands. Narcissists are good actors. You will never understand what is on their mind. A narcissistic mother can be vindictive and vindictive. She remembers the insults for a long time and is not going to forgive them. Constant humiliation and insults from the mother, devaluation of the daughter as a person, invasion of her space, are perceived by the daughter very painfully. Feelings of guilt, anxiety, fear, resentment, suppressed emotions, all accumulated negativity early or.