From the author: Love is the most proven way to overcome shame (Sigmund Freud). During the honeymoon, you may not get out of bed all day and night, but over time, your partner becomes studied from head to toe. Passion gradually disappears and is replaced by marital duty, and not by reverent intimacy. To turn back time, you should diversify your sex, but not with another partner, but with your spouse. And first of all, we should get rid of the feeling of shame: we are embarrassed about what we wanted in bed, because we don’t want to seem selfish. Selfishness is considered the worst sin in sex. Expressing what we want without complexes only means that we want to enjoy the joys of sex as much as possible. Meanwhile, selfish arranged sex is the best way for both to enjoy it. Therefore, spouses can agree to satisfy each other, and in the way that the other suggests. This kind of agreement is very serious and difficult for many to make, but if you turn it into a fun game or exercise for your abilities, it can fundamentally change the way a couple approaches sex. You just need to agree with each other that within two weeks everyone, without hesitation, asks for what they want. If sexual desire arises in one of the spouses, you should not wait until the second spouse “guesses his thoughts” and is ready to fulfill his request. You need to clearly and unambiguously explain to yourself what he wants, without unnecessary modesty. During the contract, you should give each other permission to ask for anything at any time, even wake you up at two in the morning and do “it” at first glance in an unusual environment. At the same time, you should not subject your desires to moral or other censorship and do not try to guess whether your partner likes your whim or not. On the other hand, don't be surprised if your partner's secret desire turns out to be too ordinary or incomprehensible to you. So that no one feels unfairly offended before the start of the contract, you can discuss how many times each spouse can ask the other for a favor during these two weeks. In order to avoid possible conflicts, it makes sense to agree on the permissibility of refusal of one of the partners if the desire of the second spouse seems to him on this stage of development of their relationship is completely impossible. Let the second person have the right to say: “I’m not ready for this fantasy yet,” but this should be a refusal in the form of “not yet,” and not “no, never.” There is no need to rush in this matter. Thanks to this method of mutual satisfaction, sexual thoughts will not be suppressed and go into the subconscious, threatening family well-being from there. Look after your temple of the soul, play sports, change your appearance, strive for the ideal so that your soulmate will always want you.