Today we will discuss how to experience emotions constructively? 1. The first thing you need to do is recognize and name the emotion. Sometimes, in order to experience some feeling or emotion, it is enough to simply recognize it in yourself. Tell myself, not necessarily out loud, what emotion I am experiencing now. For example, “I am angry”, “I feel resentment, envy” and this is normal, it is normal to experience any emotion.2. Express these feelings You can express them or write them. Expressing them can be difficult because we often do this with friends or relatives. And they may consider some feelings unacceptable and may forbid you to express them too. or they will start giving advice - which is extremely undesirable. You just need someone to listen and provide emotional support and unconditional acceptance. This can be expressed simply in silent approval, nodding your head, at the time of your monologue. In psychological counseling, this technique of active listening is called “uh-huh” 😅 when the therapist listens, nods and sometimes says “uh-huh” as a sign of what he hears, understands and agrees with the interlocutor. It is the creation of an atmosphere of such unconditional acceptance that is the important task of the psychologist during the session. This helps a person express himself freely, without filtering or holding back feelings and emotions. Given such limitations, in the absence of the right person nearby and the opportunity to contact a psychologist, it may be safer and more constructive to express feelings on paper. This can be done at a convenient moment for you, perhaps even at the moment of heightened passions. Do not be afraid that you will be judged by someone for a “socially unacceptable emotion”, that you will not be understood and accepted. But there is one big drawback here - the lack of emotional intimacy and unconditional acceptance of the other person. Acceptance of another person is necessary for us; it is inherent in us at the evolutionary level. It gives that same relief, the feeling that everything is fine with you, it’s normal to experience these emotions - all this helps to live the emotion as constructively as possible. Techniques for removing emotions also include: Screaming Breathing practices Sports Sometimes massage is even included here, but in my opinion this is completely auxiliary practice. I would include any practices of working with the body here. But I wouldn’t say that, for example, sport will replace “speaking it out.” So, in experiencing emotions there are 2 stages: Recognition Expression of emotion Today we discussed how to constructively live through an emotion that has already appeared. Next time we’ll discuss how to constructively express emotions or see more on my blog @you.are_more in the bannedgram.