Evolutionarily, our brain is designed to remember what helped the bearer of this brain survive. Ate wild berries -> washed out the stomach -> survived = real experience of interacting with berries. Then the person becomes a carrier of information: “such berries are dangerous” and passes it on to posterity in words. Children, without having their own real experience, learn about potential dangers. This function is important for the survival of humanity, but can be very limiting for each individual. Imagine how much we “swallowed without chewing” other people’s experience and didn’t even think to double-check it? If you can more or less take our word for it in the world of physical things, there is no need to stick your fingers into a socket or throw yourself under a car. But with the world of self-awareness, self-realization, self-attitude and relationships, not everything is so simple. Every living woman has a long list of “swallowed” attitudes and beliefs from many previous generations of her kind. Sometimes you have your own little experience. She conveys the chest of ancestral knowledge “what one must be like to survive next to a man” to her daughter in words. And what does the daughter do? He believes in the WORD and tries to fulfill this algorithm in his life. Daughters are members of the same family and the choice is theirs to check the words of the progenitor or not. Everything gets worse when one woman gives advice to another woman on how to build relationships with men. Each other expresses an unsolicited opinion on what should be done with her spouse. Of course, with the “best intentions” he tries to pin the experience of his ancestors on other women. After all, she has the most correct one. Have you noticed? Why is that? It’s easier to bend the whole world to your beliefs than to doubt that not everything was so smooth in your kingdom and something will have to be done about it. And what remains? Let any words of others pass through your experience, or at least allow yourself to think that others are HAPPY FROM OTHERS! Remember that what they advise us is the experience of another, let it carry it, but they don’t hang it on us. Do a double-check of your “legacy in the chest.” Perhaps you are happy from someone else, but you just haven’t even tried to find out. ~~~~~~~ March 4 online training “Perfectionism and more...” Details in the Training section