Excluded in the family We are all connected by one chain. The more you live, the more you become convinced of this. There is no family that does not face the grief and pain of losing a loved one, loved ones. There are stories that sweep through a person’s entire life, reminding those living of themselves. Why do events that happened many years ago remind us of themselves today? How do these events affect our lives: illnesses, mental state, how they affect the behavior and relationships of family members, destinies? Discovering a difficult situation in a person’s life: endless failures, betrayal all the time, loved ones leaving, tormented by illnesses, frequent injuries, accidents... The vulgarity of a particular family, difficult events and tragic circumstances that brought a lot of grief and pain to the family - there are usually found many forbidden topics, secrets, unknown circumstances - the so-called “blank spots” in family history. Often we come across family stories in which someone was forgotten, about whom it is not customary to talk, who was abandoned or who was deliberately forgotten by relatives - these are the so-called excluded from the clan. These are people who, for whatever reason, have become outcasts in their own families, from whom relatives have turned away, about whom it is forbidden to know and talk, it is dangerous, this is a “mystery shrouded in darkness,” these are “skeletons in the closet,” a forbidden, difficult topic that they avoid it in every possible way in conversations and try not to remember. This is someone's pain, fear, secret. In the history of our country there were many circumstances due to which people disappeared not only from life, but they also disappeared from the memory of relatives and their descendants. Repressed, “dispossessed”, convicted, missing. Mentally ill, drunkards, suicides. Children born out of wedlock are forbidden to talk about or remember. People do not want to maintain relationships with those who do not fit into their value system. “We don’t want to know you! Leave! We don't need you! This is how a message might sound to someone who, for some reason, has stumbled or committed a crime. Or to carry the memory of someone’s difficult and tragic fate - dead children, tragically deceased relatives... Not everyone had the mental strength to overcome this barrier, to share and bear this pain together. It's easier not to think. Don't talk. Forget. It came and went. And it was as if the person did not exist. When a person dies physically, he also dies in the memory of his ancestors. But it is also known that there is nothing secret that sooner or later would not become apparent. Time passes. Life takes its toll. And someday a life situation arises that allows you to shed light on the past, on the history with which something difficult, uncomfortable, and perhaps even shameful is connected in the family. Events and faces are erased from memory. New generations of children are born who do not know about the existence of people who are directly related to their clan, family, with whom they are connected by blood kinship and genetic memory. But someone will repeat the fate of their ancestor. Because there is ancestral memory and conscience of the genus. Because there is a chain connecting everyone in the family, and everyone in the family has a strong connection with someone now living or who lived before, and he will unconsciously live something for him, take on someone else’s guilt. By exploring your family history, you can trace the chain of events, see the reasons for your problems and unsuccessful life. By identifying cause and effect, you will be able to restore balance in the family system, thereby stopping the series of unpleasant events and freeing yourself from generic problems. Studying the theme of the excluded in the family system makes it possible to discover the connection between the present and the past. Moreover, the more we look into our family history and the more we find in/