In the article Trauma, how heavy and dark music destroys relationships. We settled on the fact that the events of the past can be looked at from a different angle. And this makes it possible to draw different conclusions and change the reaction to similar events in the present. - Why did your mother yell at you? What was the fear that made her scream like that? - I asked the girl. - Fear for me. She was afraid that something had happened to me. She screamed about it. “What’s the worst thing that could happen to you?” What could mom assume? - That I was kidnapped, that I was killed. - Mom screamed because she was afraid of losing you. Do you agree? - Yes. - Was she scared for you or for herself, what do you think? - For me. - I suggest you speculate. Your mother carried you, gave birth, and you came out of her. You and your mother were one for the first three years of your life. It is a great grief for a mother to lose her child. Not all mothers cope with this. For many mothers, life ends with the loss of a child. - How will I live? How can I live if I lose my child? I won't survive and I won't cope. - similar thoughts arise, because unbearable mental pain settles inside the body. - Your mother was scared for herself! Because she won't be able to survive if she loses you. And she screamed from this supposed pain. This pain was triggered by her own fear. The girl thought, looking at the past situation differently. “The heaviness that you feel now was felt for the first time then.” Right? - Yes. I now remember that story and it became hard again. - Initially, mom was scared, and only then did you feel scared from her scream. Is that right? - Yes. - We can assume that your mother passed on her fear to you, and you accepted it. Unconsciously.- Probably so.- Then, that heavy sounding music of Beethoven, what do you feel in yourself is yours or not yours?- It turns out that it’s not mine, but my mother’s.- What do we do with what doesn’t belong to us?- We throw it away? - We give it to the owner. - But I don’t want to give my mother fear. I don’t want to do anything bad to her. - If the thing doesn’t belong to you, then keeping it is comparable to theft. Do you agree? - Yes. - Your mother is the mistress of this heavy, this fear. She is an adult and smart woman. She will manage what belongs to her like an adult. You don’t manage her dresses, money, personal items? - No, I don’t. - Then what decision are you making now. The girl decided to give her mother her fear, the heavy things that she kept with her. Safely and environmentally friendly, the girl was freed from the heavy , which triggered uncontrollable, unreasonable fear in her relationship with her partner. For this purpose, the “Psychocatalysis” technique was used, author A.F. Ermoshin. The result of the work was that the girl heard the beautiful and light melodies of Chopin, which filled the void in place of the heavy one. It is important to understand that the “heavy melody of Beethoven” can come knocking: “Are you sure you want to break up with me? Maybe you’ll change your mind and bring me back?” You should track this moment in your relationship with your partner in order to say to the melody: “I won’t let you in. I didn’t call you or invite you. I have a new melody. This is Chopin’s music.” The path to the unconscious is safer and more effective with a specialist. Contact us!© All rights reserved. Reprinting an article or fragment is possible only with a link to this site and attribution. Transformation game online and individually “My happy relationship” for any age and status.