How can I make the future exactly the way I want? The correct answer is: not at all. With the advent of Covid, many have realized that life is unfolding in conditions of complete uncertainty. Although we lived in it before that. No, not even that. We ALWAYS live in conditions of uncertainty. It’s just easier for us to live in the illusion that everything is under control. A person works. And bam, they cut him. A married person. And bam, divorced. A man walks along the road. And bam, I slipped. It really can be difficult for us to realize that life is like this - full of uncertainty and lack of guarantees. But someone still wants to play it safe and begins to look for ways to control the future. For example, someone begins to worry a lot about not being fired from their job. Like “If I’m worried, I can prevent it and it won’t happen to me.” As they say, alas and ah. It may happen, or it may not. A person inclined to control the future is afraid of not being able to cope with this very future. For example, it may be difficult for a woman to imagine her life without a man. She may be frightened by the possibility of being alone and everything that comes with this new situation. In other words, the less I believe in my ability to adapt to the situation, the more control I will have. And vice versa. And then you should take a closer look at your fears and search for resources. What happens if the event that frightens you happens? What will this mean for you? How will you feel, what will you think about yourself? The answers to these questions in people’s heads can sound extremely categorical (like “I won’t be happy without him”, “I won’t survive this”, “This will mean that I’m a complete loser”). A person sincerely thinks that this is the absolute truth. Although, more often than not, there is something to argue with. If you are a person who is prone to control and you have an area in which you want complete certainty, then try asking yourself the following questions: What are the advantages and disadvantages of my need for complete certainty? Are there areas in my life in which there is no such certainty? Why do I, nevertheless, endure this uncertainty? Share, what thoughts help you cope with the unpredictability of life? What words do you use to support yourself? I think it will be useful for everyone to exchange these helpful phrases in the comments. If you recognize yourself in this article and you need help in adapting to uncertainty, then I will be glad to help. You can make an appointment with me via private messages..