From the author: We use the expression Comfort zone as a way to cover ourselves and our fears. Let's take a closer look at the issue of comfort and together we will learn to take a step towards ourselves. There are topics that are not very pleasant for us. More precisely, it’s not that they’re not pleasant, but that they cause an incomprehensible feeling of reluctance to discuss it or deal with it. For me personally, as a specialist, such a topic is talking about the Comfort Zone. I want to explain why this happened for me. Firstly, my understanding of the comfort zone is when you are truly comfortable. You have beauty and order in your home, wonderful relationships with loved ones, well-being at work, harmonious relationships with children, and most importantly, even if something is wrong somewhere, there is a state of inner comfort and coziness in your soul, and you feel good . But, the main thing is the desire to move forward, discover something new, learn and gain new knowledge, or transfer your knowledge to someone who needs it. Secondly, my associative row with the phrase: “I don’t want to leave my comfort zone” evokes the following images in my mind: passivity, laziness, fear, self-doubt, distrust of other people, etc. Thirdly, the expression Comfort Zone is used as a substitute term. In this way we disguise something that should have been changed long ago (refused, thrown away, etc.), but we stubbornly keep it close. Again, masking your laziness, pity, uncertainty, fears, etc. with this phrase. I think that there is no point in continuing to describe what is hidden behind the COMFORT ZONE, and you know it yourself. I would like to ask you the following questions (try to answer honestly, don’t deceive yourself), be sure to write down the answers: - What do you mean by the concept of Zone comfort? - What does your comfort zone consist of - this is your home. family, etc.? - Who created this zone for you (husband, yourself or someone else)? - What and/or who, from the Comfort Zone, do you value most? - How long have you felt comfortable in the comfort zone? - Or maybe you have not been comfortable in the comfort zone for a long time, but you do not have the courage to understand and accept this fact ?- Make a list of everything that prevents you from truly feeling comfortable in any comfort zone (home, family, work, etc.)? You did an excellent job answering the questions I asked you. How do you feel? If the state of comfort has not left you yet, then you are really comfortable in your comfort zone (sorry for the tautology). If your feelings are different, then let's look for ways to move from one Comfort Zone to another. I will depict this schematically. Looking at this diagram, you will immediately ask the question: “Is it really possible to just go from one state to another, from one Comfort Zone to another Zone?” - It’s not that simple. But using the following technique, you can. It will allow you to analyze the situation and prepare yourself for the next volitional effort - a step towards changing the situation. So, let's return again to those questions and answers that you have already received while communicating with yourself. You already have a list of what prevents you from feeling feel comfortable. Mark with a “+” those aspects that you are able to change on your own, for example, making peace with your mother (dad, sister, etc.). Mark with two “++” those uncomfortable moments that you must resolve with someone -something in a couple (with husband, child, etc.) Mark with three “+++” those issues that require the participation of a large number of people or funds. Start small, start with yourself. Gradually, having resolved your personal uncomfortable moments, you will see how smoothly tasks with two “++” or even three “+++” will begin to change. At the end of the article, I want to turn again to the beautiful folk art and quote the parable “A Bear in a Cramped Cage.” In one small zoo, a bear was kept in a cramped cage for a long time, and he could only take four steps in one direction and four steps back. So he walked all day long around the cage back and forth. Time passed, the zoo began to be repaired, and the bear was released into a new.