From the author: There are many interesting articles and notes from a professional sexologist on the site: Before becoming a sex psychologist, I did not like to use tests in my practice as a psychologist. Boring and boring questions and meager formal transcripts seemed to me very far from a live conversation with a client, during which I received all the information necessary for work. At the same time, the client usually began to talk about himself, giving out numerous details of all his problematic memories and situations. All I could do was make notes in my notebook, analyze the incoming information and clarify some things. Taking an anamnesis was a simple and understandable matter for me. But everything changed dramatically with the beginning of my sexological practice. Clients came, sat down and were silent. They tried to start a story - and stopped, getting confused in their “I want to talk about THIS”, “I’m shy and can’t talk about THIS”, “I have a problem with THIS, well, you understand”, “in general, I have everything bad with THIS.” They were embarrassed and afraid. They never talked to anyone about their sexual problems. They didn't know if they could talk about it at all. They blushed when they heard the words “orgasm”, “excitement”, “sexual intercourse” in my questions. At the same time, modern, successful and advanced women in all matters came to my office. In all matters except your sexuality. They knew a bunch of techniques for oral and manual stimulation of the penis, they studied all the positions of the Kama Sutra, they attended a dozen trainings on this and that sex - and at the same time, inside they remained those intimidated girls who were strictly ordered to keep their hands on the blanket under the all-seeing eye mothers, grandmothers and other guardians of morality. They were able to come to see me. But starting to talk to them was as difficult as lifting a huge boulder from the ground. And my questions and inquiries didn’t really help matters either - they were still shy, afraid, ashamed and answered “yes or no,” which was not informative enough. And then I tried to start working with tests. And it went! It was much easier for women to circle and tick boxes, confessing their most intimate problems to a paper that would definitely not judge. Yes, they were still childishly afraid of misunderstanding, reproach, condemnation and alienation - even understanding with their adult minds that a sexologist was the one who would understand and help. After the women filled out the questionnaires, I quickly analyzed and explained the results. My explanation melted their fear, mistrust, closeness and wariness - after all, on the one hand, I delicately showed that I saw certain problems, and on the other hand, I spoke about them naturally and simply, as ordinary and ordinary (and not horror-horror ) obstacles on the path to happiness that are easily eliminated. Only after this therapeutic ritual did my visitors relax, open up and begin to openly discuss their problems. Today, when training future psychologists and sexologists and passing on my experience to them, I always recommend starting a discussion of sexual topics with surveys and tests. I also recommend that general psychologists, when a client has a request related to sex, start with this: even if you have been working with a client for years, having formed a good rapport and trusting relationship, but you are touching on the topic of sexuality for the first time, there is a high probability that in the most delicate and intimate matters, your client will fall into a stupor of shyness and shame. Use tests and questionnaires as a tool to overcome this stupor. What exactly do I use in my work? Eysenck's Sexual Attitudes Questionnaire and SSF (female sexual formula). They are quite enough to, on the one hand, overcome this barrier of fear and shame that arises in the client, and on the other hand, to collect primary information about her problems. Usually it is necessary to ask 10-15 more questions to get a complete.