When getting a divorce turns out to be more difficult than continuing to live together In consultations on problems in relationships, women often ask the following question: how to live without love when there are obligations to children, a common business, common real estate, etc. .P. Don’t they allow you to destroy a marriage so clearly? That is, in fact, for them, getting a divorce turns out to be more difficult than continuing to live together. And only at first glance it seems that this is rare. No. Many find themselves faced with such a choice, or rather not the choice of divorce. There is a clear dissonance of feelings, thoughts, natural reactions to the husband’s behavior and objective factors that cannot be crossed out. What can be advised here? If you don’t have a new man in mind, and simply life in your current marriage does not bring joy, try to slightly change your view of what is happening. Take a detached meta-position in order to soberly weigh the pros and cons and choose what is important for now. You had good moments with this person, since you decided to connect your life with him? Remember them. And it’s not at all a fact that with another man everything will be one hundred percent perfect. And does this happen? Although many people don’t even dream about a new man, because... They think it’s too late, or they’re just too lazy to start all over again with the search and the candy-bouquet period. Consider your “asset” in the family. And this is exactly what it is: common children, comfortable, comfortable housing, possibly a joint business. Yes, these are connections made during family life - relatives, grandparents for children. Maintaining a good relationship with them is also important. You have rituals and traditions that have developed over the years of marriage. You have not only gone through joys, but you have probably overcome crises and difficulties along your journey together. You relied on each other, supported, helped. And yes, love may have ended a long time ago, but you have become family to each other. And common children, benefits, business - this is something that may well help you continue to be married if you decide that it is impossible otherwise. This means that you need marriage now and perhaps you just need to reconsider some rules of life together. At each stage of the relationship they are different. These rules will be individual for each couple who finds themselves in such a situation. The main thing is to maintain a respectful attitude towards each other and a desire to negotiate. Perhaps it is within your power to take a closer look at yourself - and what can you change in order to make family life more comfortable? How can you help yourself and your spouse continue to live together? In any case, it’s worth working on yourself and your relationship so as not to immediately destroy what has been built over the years and is still somewhat important. Here there are useful materials on living as a family crises How to find a partner and create a happy relationship. How to cope with a crisis in a relationship Love and joy in your relationship, a strong marriage, a comfortable family life! Katerina Istratova is a female psychologist, author of books. I will help you create a happy relationship. With myself. With a partner. With kids. With peace. 🧡Record WhatsApp, Telegram, Viber +7(929) 9020234 +7(916) 4015150