Accept the person for who he is. And where is the wisdom here? It's like saying: take a bath as it comes. What if I want it hotter? It is believed that C. Rogers was the first to talk about unconditional acceptance, mainly within the framework of psychotherapy. Accept the client for who he is, if you argue with him a lot, he won’t pay you any money. Business armed itself with this idea, quite reasonably. When humanism completely captured the minds of thinkers and just minds, they began to talk about unconditional acceptance in a broad context. Teachers have seen the light: unconditional acceptance of a child is the basis of education. How did they previously raise unhappy children without this discovery? It is assumed that the child must be accepted under any conditions, under any circumstances, and must always be assessed positively, as far as strength and mental capabilities are sufficient. This is where the problems begin. There is a lack of strength and capabilities, but most importantly, there is no education itself. Parents more often just live next to their children, feed them, clothe them, which is not bad. There are also those who protect themselves from children: with TV, a computer, a telephone, or, in extreme cases, “go for a walk.” As a result, there is neither unconditional acceptance (no strength) nor education (no desire and ability). Unconditional acceptance can be a good educational tool, support for the child and parents, but the tool must be in capable hands. In the meantime, they look at this instrument as something useful and beautiful, but they can’t lift it, it’s heavy. • Difficult does not mean impossible. Mentally healthy parents do not see the burden of unconditionally accepting a child; everything is easy for them, therefore it is possible. If we talk about unconditional acceptance between adults, then everything is more complicated than with children. There is no such thing as unconditional acceptance in close relationships. There are always conditions, often, they are simply not formulated, not voiced. You can beautifully say: “darling, I will love you and accept you for who you are.” Okay, thinks dear. I am a big lover of women and I will have sex not only with you, but also with others, since all women are beautiful. I wonder if his girlfriend will have any conditions for love, or will the relationship end immediately? People always make choices by trying out many suitable conditions. Clients look for psychologists according to certain parameters; psychologists have their own conditions for consulting, for example, they will not work for free. If it were different in personal life, then no one would choose anything. I am ready to accept a person as he is - take anyone who agrees. But where have you seen girls ready to marry anyone, or men willing to marry without any conditions? They are not even in jokes. Typical situation: - Oh, where is the man who will love me for who I am, no matter what I am? - Here I am, I love you! - No, you're scary. And this is reality, but fiction about unconditional acceptance necessary and useful. It's always nice to know that you can strive for something beautiful and noble, like reaching the top of Everest. Pichugin V.G., Ph.D., Associate Professor, Financial University under the Government of the Russian Federation.