Anecdote: Two friends meet. Masha: Lyudmila, how is your daughter? Lyudmila: Your daughter lives very well. She’s lucky with her husband - he’ll buy her a fur coat, or a car, or take her to the Maldives... Masha: How’s your son doing? Lyudmila: Not good. I was unlucky with my wife - sometimes she got a fur coat, then Bali, then a car... There are jokes and songs about the mother-in-law, much less about the mother-in-law... Maybe because men (who mostly come up with jokes) have no time to laugh when we are talking about the eternal triangle MOTHER-IN-LAW, DAUGHTER-IN-LAW, SON. Very often a man finds himself between two fires, the flames of which cost him nerves and headaches, and sometimes cause the collapse of his family. How to avoid quarrels and maintain good family relationships? Advice to your son-husband: Never convey your wife’s words to your mother, or your mother’s words to your wife. Very often, men themselves provoke scandals between their most beloved women. Do not complain to your mother about your problems with your wife. Your complaints give her the right to “poke her nose” into your family. Never compare your wife with your mother. Advice for your wife-daughter-in-law: Never complain to your mother-in-law about her son. She will always be on his side. With your complaints you are destroying the boundaries of your family. You give your mother-in-law the right to interfere in your relationship with your husband. Don’t try to be your mother-in-law’s friend. Confusion of roles leads to conflicts. Show respect, gratitude and honor to your mother-in-law, if only for the sake of your children, who learn from you how to relate to the older generation. Your mother-in-law does not owe you anything. Understanding and accepting this will eliminate resentment and quarrels. Advice from mother-in-law: True maternal love lies not only in her unconditionality and acceptance of her child, but also in the ability to let him go in time. If you really want happiness for your son, respect his right to choose his other half and the right to live the way he wants. Respect your daughter-in-law. Never scold, evaluate, compare your daughter-in-law with other girls in the presence of your son and her children. an example of tolerance, kindness and humility for your children. Do not cause good with your advice. Your children have the right to make their own mistakes. Live your life, not the life of your children. With love and respect to you! Your #psychologist Elena Grechenko