In the first part, I showed how you can independently or together with a psychologist reduce fear caused by certain events of the past. In the second, we will figure out how to cope with the fear of what a person has yet to do ❓ Six months ago, my grandmother asked me to help her granddaughter stop being afraid of speaking in front of the class. 1) In such a case, you need to talk with the “fearful” person about what exactly might happen. So the girl from the above example was afraid that during the speech she would forget the speech that she was supposed to give while standing at the blackboard in front of the whole class. 2) We ask the person what can be done to prevent this from happening. (If there is a difficulty, we offer/throw out our options to him, and he will choose the most suitable one from those listed, or in the process of your suggestions the person will have his own ideas) Let’s say the teacher can suggest words. Psychologist: Isn’t it getting so scary? Client: Yes))) 3) What else are you afraid of? (We discuss until all possible worries about the upcoming event are exhausted). The girl from our example was afraid that her classmates would look at her unkindly and laugh at her while speaking at the blackboard. But for someone, in principle, it is scary and incredibly difficult to speak in front of a large number of strangers. ❗To do this, you can find a person in the room who you like (probably he smiles at you or just listens to you carefully), and tell your speech directly to him alone, maintaining eye contact only with him. After this, the psychologist may ask how the client can handle this option? Based on my practice, I will say that it becomes much easier for the client. Thus, I gave an example of how you can cope with the fear of upcoming events on your own. However, if your fear has not gone away, I invite you to my consultations and psychotherapeutic sessions. You can make an appointment with me online or in person by clicking on my name and clicking on the “Get a consultation” button in the form under my photo".