We all come from childhood - everyone already knows this. This is why psychologists work with childhood trauma. Close your eyes. Remember your childhood and your mother. What image of your mother pops up in front of you? Is she kind and happy or aggressive and critical? Is your mother happy with life? From the first days we absorb what surrounds us, and this is our parental family. These are all the pros and cons of our parents. We lack something (love, acceptance, care, understanding), something makes us angry and irritates us (shouting, insults, humiliation), something hurts us, and sometimes seriously traumatizes us. And there comes a time when we say that we don’t want to be like our mother or father. That we will do everything differently in our adult lives. And we really, looking back at our parents, do everything the opposite of them. Without noticing that we are turning into them. And the more we run away from them, the more and more similar we become. Why? Because internal attention is still directed to the parents. “I asked my mother many times to help me with this and that, but she never did it. What is this phrase about? It's about responsibility, your responsibility, about a grievance that for some reason you don't take or don't want to take. If we deny something, then that's exactly what we become. By looking at negativity, we become it ourselves. What to do? To begin, take as a model what you want to be. There are two ways to move, “from” and “to.” From negative to positive. The second one is more effective. Yes, your parents are far from ideal. Try to look at the world through their eyes. Remember what they told you about their childhood. Remember their lives. Often it was far from ideal. They gave you no more and no less than they themselves had: their fears and their complexes, their anxieties and projections of the world. They simply didn't have more. The more we condemn our parents, the closer we come to them. By condemning our parents, we seem to put ourselves above them. Smarter, wiser, more empathic, understanding than parents. We become parents of parents. But this is a priori impossible. Letting go of resentment towards your parents is difficult, but it is quite possible with the help of a psychologist. A healthy relationship with your mother is the key to a daughter’s happy life. A happy mother has happy children. Therefore, the main thing for a mother is to be happy. And the most important thing for fathers is to love the mother of their children. You can get advice by making an appointment by phone number 8 903 373 36 00 (Whats App )