“Mom and dad divorced almost immediately after the birth of their son, and he stayed with his mother. At the age of six, his mother sent her son to his grandfather, arguing that the school was closer, it was more convenient to walk to the shops, that he had I have a warm relationship with my grandfather. Sometimes she came for tea, gave toys, gifts, and called. But gradually, in barely noticeable steps, communication faded away. Later, my mother remarried and gave birth to a daughter. Two years after this, my grandfather died. The son had to return to his mother in her new family, in which he did not really know either his sister, much less her husband. Grinding in, getting used to each other. He had a good relationship with his sister, but not with his mother and stepfather. His stepfather did not accept him, often ignored him, and when he scolded and shouted, his mother never intervened, rather she agreed. Mom herself also grew cold towards him, tolerated him, and the warmth that was there until he was six years old disappeared, as if it had never existed. Everyone loved his sister - mom, dad, and brother. She received much more warmth from her parents than he did, but this did not quarrel between brother and sister. He walked with her, played, helped with his studies, she gave him drawings and crafts. When he turned 18, he found a job, and later moved to a rented apartment, because he could no longer live under such rejection and coldness from his parents. He continued to communicate with his sister occasionally, correspond with each other, and only contacted his mother on holidays. A few years later, his mother divorced again. When the son turned 27 years old, his mother’s legs gave out. My sister asked him to help take care of her because it was hard for her alone: ​​she had difficulty paying for her studies, her mother, and the nurse. And she said: “We are family, forgive her.” But he refused time after time, because he didn’t want to get involved with his mother, to help her, stepping over himself and over “I don’t want.” They say that their grown children are obliged to help elderly parents. However, one can understand the son - you will not be nice by force, especially with a person who did not love, but tolerated. If he starts helping, he will sacrifice himself, and coercion is an impossible task. In turn, my sister received love and now helps on her own initiative. One way to cope is for the son to help financially with a nurse, and he and his sister will share the inheritance. It is also advisable for him to work through grievances. It is not necessary to forgive your mother out loud, to resume communication, but one way or another, childhood caused internal trauma, and in order to move on in life it would be easier, to be able to build healthy relationships, not to get hung up on the mother’s indifference, grievances need to be worked through. Sign up for an individual consultation: + 7 (903) 373-36-00, WhatsApp, Telegram.