From the author: The place of sadness in a person’s life. Sadness is one of the natural emotions of any person. We all feel sad sometimes. Various events happen in life: we lose friends, lovers, move from our usual places. When something familiar and dear to life leaves your life, or hope for something bright in the future is lost, sadness arises. And that's okay. There are no joyful people always and under any circumstances. Our whole life consists of ups and downs, ups and downs, including emotional ones. Why then is it indecent in our society to be sad? Remember, you probably have had cases when, when signs of sadness appeared, your loved ones began to try to cheer you up, cheer you up, distract you, or do something to make you stop being sad. Many of us have a “taboo” that crying in public is forbidden, sharing one’s pain is shameful, if only under the cover of strong drinks. And those around you, trying with all their might to extinguish your sadness, do not bring any benefit. First of all, their desire to cheer you up is due to the fact that your tears or unhappy appearance reminds them and excites them of something of their own: their pain, unshed tears, unlived loss. And only secondly, it obeys the expectation that an attempt to cheer you up will make you feel better. Our society does not know how to sympathize and empathize. Sometimes you can even hear from loved ones: “Stop being so limp! You are the one to blame! The world hasn’t collapsed!”, or: “Get together! We must enjoy life!” and other similar phrases that devalue your feelings. Many people do not allow themselves and others to be sad, because they think that this state will drag them down. Although the more we try to get rid of this feeling, the more it accumulates in the subconscious, and the more strongly it affects us. The solution is to live, i.e. allow yourself to feel sadness, continue to be in it. The feeling of sadness in itself is not long-lasting. If it is suppressed, sadness appears. The feeling of sadness is already more protracted. Please note that if sadness becomes constant, interest in life is lost, there is no strength and you don’t want anything, then this is a reason to consult a specialist (psychologist), because this may indicate depression. But if sadness occurs temporarily, then know, whoever you are, a man or a woman, a parent or a big boss, YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE SAD. You have the right to be alone, to think, to cry, to grieve. It is extremely important for mental health to allow yourself to feel sad from time to time. Through this we can let go of something or someone, accept and come to terms with what we cannot change. How to convey this to your loved ones? You can say that you want to be alone a little, to think about something. That it will help you calm down or get rid of stress. You can indicate that your experiences are not associated with this loved one, so that he does not worry. If you want the presence of a loved one, then ask: “Please stay with me, hold my hand, hug me, your presence and support will help me a lot.” !”Or “Please don’t try to cheer me up, just stay close to me, this is important to me now.” Usually, when such requests are made directly, loved ones try to respond to it. If you can't get the form of support you need from, say, your spouse or parents, turn to someone you can trust: a friend or a psychologist. An adequate psychologist is distinguished by the ability to sympathize and accept any feelings that the client experiences, and does not try to “fix” him. In addition, with a psychologist you can work through some old pain, a loss that you were unable to grieve and be sad about at one time. And find ways to interact with loved ones for better mutual understanding. I wish you acceptance of your feelings! With faith in you, Maria Novikova