I specialize in working with loss, bereavement, grief. People come to me more about death and parting. Yes, and I’ve written more about exactly this .A selection of my publications about losses: https://www.b17.ru/article/313694/?prt=92671https://www.b17.ru/article/313623/?prt=92671https://www.b17.ru /article/313586/?prt=92671https://www.b17.ru/article/292508/?https://www.b17.ru/article/291577/?phttps://www.b17.ru/article/ 278475/?prt=92671But losses await us at every turn. Even when positive changes occur. Quote from the book “My colleague John Buckman once told the story of a poor man from London who was hospitalized with depression after winning big in the Irish horse racing It turned out that this guy suffered from complicated grief: unexpected wealth meant the loss of his usual way of life. Despite the tempting prospects that new wealth promised, he could not take advantage of it.” This quote plunged me headlong into my own state. It is extremely difficult, as I learned from personal example, with positive changes in life, to realize that you are grieving and what you’re grieving. And here it’s as if I’m going through all the stages of grief myself. The first is denial. When I told everyone: everything is fine with me, we moved and this is a wonderful place! In fact, there is not a drop of lie here. Kaliningrad is beautiful! I will write about him, I’m sure! But no one can cancel my losses. When it seemed to me that I was already grieving my beloved apartment in Novosibirsk, the inability to see my loved ones at any moment, and what about the stores that I was used to going to, then in reality in fact, NO! I AM IN THE PROCESS OF GRIEVING! It is still in full swing. You grieve one thing, it’s your turn to grieve about another. Of course, realize and grieve. I understand that the process has not been completed, because there is less energy than usual. For example, I have I don’t have any time for writing articles. But articles are not primarily a way to attract attention to yourself as a specialist... This is my resource. I like to write simply about my work, about my thoughts, even just blogging “life outside the profession.” And in the Kaliningrad region there is a lot to tell about... But it’s as if I have no strength and my thoughts are hidden... Then I look for new awareness of what I have lost... The meaning that I want to convey here today: pay attention to what happens to you after quite pleasant events: - moving to a new house, place, country - wedding - change in status - change of job to a seemingly better one or even a car - the long-awaited family separation: adult children moved out, for example. I noticed that a number of clients came to me on the eve of the wedding. Moreover, the request was not about this action at all. There is a lot of tension before the event... That’s why at the Moscow Institute of Integrative Family Therapy we were trained to work with losses. They said that without this skill, you are not a psychotherapist... So, various losses can reduce the quality of our life to zero. Analyze and come for consultations. By the way, not surprisingly, my professional energy has not gone anywhere - :) I lead the sessions with interest and pleasure with old and new clients. Interest and professionalism are our resources! With respect to you, Elena Kislova. Sign up for a consultation: +7 (913) 985-72-92 (WhatsApp, Telegram). Subscribe to my Telegram channel: https://t.me/psychologist_ElenaKislova