Love is an airy feeling completely without a hint of consumerism?! As a pragmatic person in life, I’m sorry, I don’t believe in this. This is usually said by people who don’t want to bring anything to the relationship. Although it’s not a fact that they themselves don’t want to take something from them. “You’re so material!” usually says the man who stupidly doesn’t want to work. But at least three times a day he is always looking for something in the refrigerator. And he really loves to dress beautifully. This person is looking for support and understanding, participation and love from his other half. “You completely forgot about me!” he says, not remembering himself (or maybe not trying) to remember when he himself paid attention to his woman and what it actually consisted of. “In a good relationship, everything should be easy,” I recently listened to a video from other specialists, hopefully “colleagues” in the shop. “People in a harmonious couple should converge with all their opposite qualities and complement each other. Therefore, grinding should be simplified to the point of impossibility,” I listened to another video. But life is not mathematics!!! And the balance in it is quite relative. Is it possible to get along with your partner with all the qualities? I had a client who constantly complained: “My husband and I complement each other with many qualities and habits, but I don’t like to cook. And no one in our family likes it. What should I do... I tolerate cooking for the sake of my family.” Relationships are always work, work for both. Everyone contributes something and sacrifices something to a relationship. If these sacrifices are difficult and unbearable for a person, after which he develops depression, psychosomatics and chronic neurosis, then apparently these relationships are dependent and destructive. And of course, you need to raise the question of whether they are worth saving. If the relationship simply contains work issues that need to be overcome every day, then excuse me, this is a normal relationship. And everyone in the family must overcome these difficulties. It's just life. And it’s not just made of sugar. Listen to someone who is worse off than you today! Do something for someone if they are sick! Help financially if they are in a financial hole! But don’t be afraid to also calculate how much your partner brings into your relationship. And is he ready to suffer a little for you, if it’s you who’s in the f@ck now? Do you both contribute everything to your relationship in a 50/50 ratio? In relationships, people must take and give! This is good! But all this must be in a reasonable form.