From the author: Parents often ask the question: “What can we, parents, do to make adaptation to kindergarten most successful?” Let's think about it... Parents often ask the question : “What can we, parents, do so that adaptation to kindergarten occurs most successfully, as painlessly as possible, so that the child goes to kindergarten himself (preferably without hysterics), and understands that kindergarten is not a punishment?” Let's try to figure it out... Let's consider several aspects. If the parent himself believes that kindergarten is a punishment, a place where one needs to “endure”, “serve time” - then with a high degree of probability, the child will also think so. If the parents themselves are not sure that the child needs to attend kindergarten (or at least one of the parents does not consider this mandatory) - the child will most likely have problems with adaptation when his parents doubt him, and then he will use any of their hesitations in order not to part with them. Children whose parents have no alternative to kindergarten get used to it faster and easier. If the parents (especially the mother!) have the attitude: “My child is going to kindergarten, he will feel good there, they will take care of him, he will play with his peers.” and develop. “I want him to go to kindergarten” - then the mother’s confidence in a safe time in the kindergarten will be passed on to the child, and the mother’s support, her calmness, confidence that everything will be fine with the child in the kindergarten will definitely help the baby cope with possible difficulties. small children have no sense of time. Every time a mother disappears from sight, for a child up to two or three years old, she disappears “forever.” And he is still sorting out his feelings with the help of his mother. And his desires are still inseparable for him - my mother wants the same thing as me. How could it be any other way? Therefore, it is very important for the child to express feelings - his own and the child’s, desires, to draw a “time line” for today. For example: “Kindergarten is such a beautiful home where mothers and fathers bring their kids. I want you to meet and make friends with other children and adults. In the garden, children eat, walk, and play. I really want to go to work, it’s interesting to me. And I really want you to go to kindergarten, so that it will be interesting for you too. Then each of us will be able to do our own interesting thing. In the morning I’ll take you to kindergarten, go to work, and in the evening I’ll come pick you up, and we’ll go home together.” If you or your child is feeling anxious, you can add: “Sometimes I worry about how your day will go in the garden, how my day will go.” at work, will you be able to do everything you would like? Many people feel nervous, this is normal. But I believe that I can handle the job, I will succeed, and you will have fun in kindergarten. And in the evening you and I will be able to share our impressions of how the day went. We can tell each other a lot of interesting things!” It is necessary to tell the child about the kindergarten regime: what, how, and in what sequence he will do. The more detailed your story is, and the more often you repeat it, the calmer your baby will go to kindergarten. Kids are scared of the unknown. When a child sees that everything is happening as promised, he feels more confident. It is advisable to talk with the child about possible difficulties and who he can turn to for help. For example: “If you want to drink, go to the teacher and say: “I’m thirsty.” Do not create illusions in your child that everything will be done on demand. Explain that there are many children in the group, and sometimes he will have to wait a little for his turn. Of course, the ability to use the potty, eat independently, communicate with children - address them by name, get to know them, not take them away, but exchange toys - makes adaptation much easier. In the presence The child should avoid making critical remarks about the kindergarten and its employees. The child will automatically accept your position (“If mom doesn’t like it here, then I feel bad too. I don’t want to go to kindergarten!”).